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What does this song mean?

45 replies

Looloolo · 16/12/2023 09:53

This might seem ridiculous but an emotionally unintelligent guy that I care about tends to play songs at me to communicate feelings.

He’s never actually said as much so it might be completely in my head too!!! 😂

Anyway. So we had an intensely emotional fling, I wanted more and he scarpered.

There is another women and the path of least resistance would be to make it work with her.

I haven’t seen him much recently. He’s been very guarded. I feel a bit like I’m being strung along and just when I’m over him, I see him and miss him so much.

He played this song.

Boyzone - Gave it all away

I’ve listened to it and it sounds to me like he implies the other women isn’t right for him anymore, he’s not letting me go, but then at the end it’s like he said he can’t give me anything ie, we’re over.

Please kindly indulge me.

What do you think of the song choice?

OP posts:
PawPrintsInMyPansies · 16/12/2023 09:56

Forget about the songs. He sounds like a complete headfuck.

Start thinking about yourself and why you’re accepting this crappy treatment.

You deserve better, but you won’t find it whilst you’re stuck on this guy.

delete and block.

Alchemistress · 16/12/2023 09:58

I'm going to be a huge snob but I'd give a massive swerve to anyone who used Boyzone songs to explain their feelings.

Barmecide · 16/12/2023 09:59

Adult relationships cannot work if one party is so emotionally fuckwitted his sole mode of communication is via bad boyband tracks.

Ask yourself why you are attracted to someone who has the emotional IQ of a toaster.

ChoupetteTheCat · 16/12/2023 09:59

Alchemistress · 16/12/2023 09:58

I'm going to be a huge snob but I'd give a massive swerve to anyone who used Boyzone songs to explain their feelings.

😆

MistyGreenAndBlue · 16/12/2023 10:01

Who cares? He's a loser. Read your own words "emotionally unintelligent"
"guarded" "strung along" etc
And you don't need to interpret a song to know he's not into a relationship with you. He TOLD you he wasn't when he legged it and started seeing someone else.

He seems pretty childish. You can do better

peachgreen · 16/12/2023 10:02

I dated a guy like this. Emotionally avoidant, absolute refusal to commit in any way, shape or form but sent me songs that said all the things I longed to hear from him. Enough to keep me hooked in but gave him complete deniability if he wanted to backtrack. It’s crumbs, OP. Crumbs of affection to keep you following along. Gives him an ego boost and a backup option. Don’t you want to be more than that to someone?

JenJenJenJenJenJen · 16/12/2023 10:02

Oh ick.

Seriously OP, surely you can see this whole situation is ridiculous? He sounds like a 14 year old lassie from 1996.

AlwaysForksAndMarbles · 16/12/2023 10:03

Barmecide · 16/12/2023 09:59

Adult relationships cannot work if one party is so emotionally fuckwitted his sole mode of communication is via bad boyband tracks.

Ask yourself why you are attracted to someone who has the emotional IQ of a toaster.

Pretty much word for word what I was about to write! So, I endorse this message.

OP, just block his number and start dealing with adults.

caramac04 · 16/12/2023 10:06

He’s really not worth your emotional effort.
You are worth more.

EmptyYoghurtPot · 16/12/2023 10:07

Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it so is stringing you both along. I’m not sure he’s grown up enough for an actual relationship.
He also has shite taste in music imho

Decembernights · 16/12/2023 10:08

This reminds me myself in 1999 when a certain man I was so in love with and he just used me for cheap sex, played once on the radio in his car : I turn to you by Mel C and pointed at me at the chorus and I thought naively I’m the one forever and he was giving me the sign. I remember asking all my friends what that meant!

15PiecesOfFlair · 16/12/2023 10:09

From those lyrics he's trying to tell you that he hates your mother and thinks you make cups of tea with too much milk in.

HellOfAnAngel · 16/12/2023 10:09

Boyzone. 🤣

daisychain01 · 16/12/2023 10:09

C'mon OP how can you "miss" someone so much who is so emotionally deficient he has to talk to you using Boy Band songs.

please please believe me, you won't change him, you'll forever be wishing he was different (which isn't fair on him or yourself) and it will make him even more closed up the more you want and yearn for his innermost thoughts. He probably doesn't have anyway, he doesn't think like that and doesn't prioritise expressing emotion, possible part of his background.

be grateful you've dodged this one, and get on with being happy in your own life and maybe another more suitable person will come along, but not like this.

KissTheRains · 16/12/2023 10:12

The only song you need is:

Run To The Hills - Iron Maiden.

Why the fuck are you expending your energy and wasting your limited time on earth on a man who sees you as option 2?

Do you enjoy being a back up plan?

Fuck that.

Hereforthebunfights · 16/12/2023 10:13

For the love of dog, relationships are not meant to be this much work.

MermaidEyes · 16/12/2023 10:27

Ask yourself why you are attracted to someone who has the emotional IQ of a toaster.

😂😂 I mean, Boyzone?! Come on! I wouldn't even date an emotionally available guy who listened to Boyzone!

Spirallingdownwards · 16/12/2023 10:34

Another woman which would mean a path of least of resistance - oh you mean his wife!

Bin a married man who listens to Boyzone.

OwlWeiwei · 16/12/2023 10:34

Alchemistress · 16/12/2023 09:58

I'm going to be a huge snob but I'd give a massive swerve to anyone who used Boyzone songs to explain their feelings.

Grin Yes.

LambriniBobinIsleworth · 16/12/2023 10:40

I'm not familiar with the song, so I had to have a look at the lyrics. What the fuck is this? These are lyrics, they're phonetic sounds:

"Why hy' 'hy I lay my heart down on the floor
I showed you love, you wanted more re re
But I gave it all away (cry 'ry 'ry 'ry cry 'ry 'ry 'ry)"

My English teacherly interpretation of what I read is that the lyrics are hollow (and shit) and that this guy is a 11yr old girl from the mid nineties (and that maybe he has a crush on Ronan). Bin and run.

samestyle · 16/12/2023 10:41

😂

MistletoeandJd · 16/12/2023 15:50

Alchemistress · 16/12/2023 09:58

I'm going to be a huge snob but I'd give a massive swerve to anyone who used Boyzone songs to explain their feelings.

🤣 boyzone red flag

Watchkeys · 16/12/2023 15:58

Figure yourself out, not him.

Why are you wasting your time on this? People who are good for you communicate clearly, and make sure you understand. People who are bad for you seem cryptic. Is that hard to understand? If so, it's likely that you were raised by parent(s) whose love for you was hard for you to understand, and in whom you had to search out feelings of love, rather than having those feelings made clear to you.

Might that be right?

WhatFlavourIsIt · 16/12/2023 16:06

I'm no expert, but I'd say it means he wants to draw you back in by questioning what does this mean?, what's he trying to tell me?. He's bored & looking to seek the thrill of the chase.

ConstitutionHill · 16/12/2023 17:03

Alchemistress · 16/12/2023 09:58

I'm going to be a huge snob but I'd give a massive swerve to anyone who used Boyzone songs to explain their feelings.

This.