Intimacy in longer term relationships/ marriages-

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Those of you who have been with your partner well past the honey moon phase I would really like to know what levels of non sexual intimacy you have in your relationships.
As couples do you hold hands, have random cuddles, kisses and hugs? I am not talking glued at the hip here- just naturally wanting to connect every now and again.
What does your partner do to make you feel appreciated and loved?
Do you snuggle on the sofa etc etc.
How have you managed to maintain connection with your partner?
My partner of 5 years reckons it is completely normal not to want to do that after a certain length of time and that most longer term couples don’t.
He might hold my hand whilst we walk, but that is about it. Our relationship is pretty well on the floor right now.

Whilst I appreciate that that might be ok for many people, I do wonder how many women would like more connection with their partners.
We do not live together and see each other about 4 nights a week.

We always have a kiss and cuddle before one of us leaves the house.

When we wake up in the morning he reaches for my hand and kisses my fingers.

We hold hands when walking regardless of where we are or who we are with.

We have been together 20 years and are in our late 50’s

If we quarrel, we always make up and don’t let it fester.

I love who we are together

18 years in. My DH is not one for any hand holding and its a running joke in our house. He isnt one for PDA in general.
At home, we seem to go in phases. I definitely struggle with the lack of affection sometimes. I've learnt to just tell/remind him!

@AGirlWithAHandOnHerArm
Yes sometimes. I have had previous relationships where I have had that affection but then I think how those didn't work out for other reasons. I've brought it up with him. He's said that he loves me very much and wants to work on showing me that. He says that he's just been oblivious to there being a problem. Whether or not he's still trying in a few weeks time, I don't know. We'll have to see.

I'm figuring out that I'm just the type of person that needs that attention to feel secure and loved. So I'm trying to work out why I am like that, how I can communicate that and teach myself that maybe the lack of it doesn't spell out a lack of love.

I guess all we can do is communicate our reasonable needs and hope that they love us enough to respond to them. Otherwise I fear we'll never be happy.

40 years in.
Still daily kiss and cuddle in private, (plus other intimacy, less frequently)
Hold hands, occasionally hug in public.

26 years in. Still kiss and cuddle (in private) less snuggling than many years ago, but mainly due to aches and pains than lack of intimacy - we both need some space to feel comfortable. If we hadn't seen each other for a few days there would be lots of intimacy and we both miss each other.