We re together two years. Experienced a traumatic event that changed the dynamic of the relationship.
We were both injured and unwell. I healed but he became more unwell and I ultimately became his cater on top of trying to mind myself and my family.
I couldn't cope so I ended it when there was no mutual care, by the end.
He pulled himself out from f the situation. Put the work into
Physio etc, got back to work and back on his feet.
We met up and decided to try again on an equal footing.
That was three months ago. All going great but...
My teenage child is always around. He wants to be in our company when my oartne4 is here at all times. They get on well and partner supports him in whatever he is enjoying eg sport, activities etc.
My partner is here once per week for a day and overnight.
My partner was rude to my child yesterday.
Now I am very protective and defensive when it comes to him but I was not happy.
When I pulled him up on his rudeness, partner immediately said it was fun. It wasn't.
He then commented on me ignoring hom( as I was so cross)
And I went to my child who was oblivious to any issue.
He shot down any effort to talk about it saying he felt he was being talked at and we went to bed in silence.
He got up, went to work and went a loving message about hoping he didn't wake me etc.
I told him that this freezing me out when arguments happen is over. He said that he's coming to pick up his stuff now 🙄. He was exactly like this before. Cannot handle conflict at all and doesn't know how to manage it. He's even had therapy for it .
I can be overbearing and strong, I know that. I'm am
Also super sensitive and protective of my child.
Can I have your thoughts on this please .