In love with best friend.

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Friends for over 2 years. Realised I felt something about a year ago. Don’t know what to do.

We talk everyday. Mundane stuff, big stuff, everything. We do the same job albeit in different companies, and we share a hobby, see each other minimum twice a week. Often just drinks, me and him.

We have banter, take the piss constantly, we cheer each other on, share big life decisions.

He’s been offered a job that would mean moving over 3 hours away. I’m devastated but have been supportive, not mentioned my feelings.

Do I tell him how I feel?

Hello everyone!

I totally bottled it last night. We had a few drinks and a good catch up. I tried to watch his body language but I’m so rubbish at all that.

He messaged to check I got home ok afterwards.

I’m just scared of losing the friendship if he’s not into me.

Buy some mistletoe and put it above one of your doors as part of your Christmas decorations. Next time he visits lean in for a kiss. If he pulls away, just laugh and point to the mistletoe and say you were just offering a friendly Christmas kiss. If he goes for it and it is passionate then you'll have your answer. Hope it works out for you. You sound so well matched.

Honestly if you are in love with him the friendship is over unless you tell him. You simply have to distance yourself or you will never move on and meet someone else. Tell him, he either feels the same way, great and if not at least you no so you are not forever living in hope, never really leaving yourself open to meeting anyone else or getting over him.
You don't tell him, things proceed as normal- what happens when he meets someone else. Too late to tell him then, can you imagine how painful that will be.

I agree. Tell him OP ! Nothing lost if he wants to stay just friends.

If you don’t tell him you’ll always wonder “what if”. Please be brave and take the plunge, life is for living and loving. Do it!!!!!

….then report back and tell us how it went 😉…. Good luck!!!

Love this! Good luck!

He might be moving three hours away, what have you got to lose?

He might be considering going because he has feelings for you and doesn’t think they’re reciprocated.

Honestly, you sound like a couple already. If you don’t say something you’ll never know.

I was in exactly the same boat.

I told him.

Lost his friendship. And have regretted it every day of my life since.

Message him – I think it’s perfectly understandable why, and it also allows him time to process.

I agree with above poster, I think the friendship is over either way, because for you it’s not just a friendship and you need to know so you can accept to move on.

That’s a shame.

But if your feelings were that strong, and had moved on from friendship to a lot more, then the friendship was going to end anyway, sad to say.

When he became attached to someone else, that would have been the end of the friendship in the nature it had been, anyway.

If you’d kept silent, you’d have had to bottle everything up, and then be happy for him when he met someone else. And inevitably be sidelined in favour of him wanting to devote time and intimacy to someone else.

I only say this because there’s no point regretting speaking up. It wasn’t the speaking up that ended things. The friendship, as it was, would have ended anyway.