Just went through a bad breakup at 28. Terrified I've missed the boat to have a family like I always wanted?

[ChiquititaCat]

I always thought at this age I'd be married and have children, but had to leave my fiancee whom I loved because he became abusive (physically and verbally).

I am in a ok position otherwise I think (I have a good job, own my own home, people say I'm attractive etc). But I'm so upset that things haven't worked out for me in my personal life like I hoped they would. My friends tell me I'm being silly (none of them are married and but most in new relationships), and I don't think it helps that my family is from another culture where it's the norm to be married at around 25. My mum keeps saying I need to get a move on which is making it worse I think!

I'm just so worried that all the things I want won't happen for me. I keep trying to get a grip, but I'm struggling to recover from the heartbreak!

Do you know many people who were single at 28 but ended up having a happy family?

Me and most people I know!

I left a whole decade of bad relationships at 28 and went off traveling. I met dh abroad and we were married 3 years later and pregnant with first dc 6 months after that. Honestly, in my mid 40s, most of my friends who settled down with partners they met in early to mid 20s are now divorced.

I really understand how hard it is, when you know what you want but it feels out of reach.
at 28, you’ve got at least 7 years of good fertility - a lot can happen in 7 years!