H moves out on Friday and I'm feeling really down about it tonight........

[FAQ]

can't believe it's finally coming to this - and it's so imminent

it's very natural to feel that way, even if you think it is the right thing to do

sorry you feel bad

shall be back in 10 minutes - DS3 just woken up......

I suppose Lou - it feels really weird knowing that from Friday night it's just going to be me and the DS's in the house.

it's a big change that's why

I'm so sorry for you FAQ. It is an awful awful thing to happen. Please lean on MN as much as you need to. I hope you will be ok.

hmm I suppose - we've been together just over 9yrs....I'm (nearly) 29 - so almost since I left school.

Was hoping to go to bed - but DS3 is still lying in his cot babbling to himself - and if I go to bed now he'll want to get up and play

it's ok to feel down and worried, you are grieving, you will have many thoughts and emotions churning about

Things sometimes seem worse in the days leading up to an event like this because you don't know what, exactly , you'll be dealing with. Once the event happens you can gather your strength and get on with day to day life. You're in a bit of a no-man's land at the moment - living with a partner, but not being together. It must be very hard.

It is hard, and it doesn't help I've got LOADS of Easter stuff on at church - which at the moment looks like it's going to be a total disaster...I can't hand it over to anyone else to do as there's no-one else that can!

actually - maybe the extra stuff to do does help??

I don't know - you know how much waffle I usually type.......I can't even think what/how to write what I'm trying to say tonight.

and will someone please tell DS3 that it's 1am in the morning and he needs to go back to sleep instead of lying there trying to crawl round his cot and babbling??

he's asleep now......but I don't feel like going to bed - not really tired anymore

sorry faq i crashed

i think having something to do will be good for you

aside from keeping you busy it shows you that you are not just a wife, and there are other parts of your life that will be a comfort to you

hope you are feeling ok today

oh FAQ, im sorry that you are having such a rough time, its a big step, no wonder you are freaking out a bit but we are here for you x

FAQ how are things today?

FAQ don't know if it helps but I lived in MH as ExH for several months until we sold.

I was dreading the actual day of moving (as much for DCs as myself) but on the day it was actually a bit of an anti climax.

I thought I would feel very sad about leaving that home but actually the most recent memories of it were not good. The DCs were very sad though as it was the only home they had known.

Perhaps all my emotions were spent at that time or I was so weary with it all.

And when I moved into the rented place with the kids it was such a relief.

Nearly two years on I still do not have security in housing but I have tried to find security in other things, routine and our small tight family unit.

And the irony is that I didn't have any security with exH as he stopped paying the mortgage. He was leading us to self destruct.

Hope that helps, I have waffled a bit.

Hope that helpe

Thanks everyone - still feeling a bit down - but have DS2 and 3 awake and needing sorting atm so they're keeping me busy.

Got my IS statement through the post today and I have to correct anything that's incorrect........ermm that would be about half of it then - I think the bloke filling it in on the phone for me must have been thinking about the weekend as there's LOADS of things where I said "yes" - and he's put "no" and vice versa.....so have the fun job of going through and correcting it all today

what a pain, not what you need right now is it?

not really - got until Friday afternoon to get it sorted - that's when my interview at the Job Centre is.......but I could think of much better things to do that correcting all their mistakes

make sure you tell htem

oh I have to correct, sign and date all things that need correcting before I go

duh - clicked "post" and then realised that perhaps you meant that I should tell them that they made loads of mistakes

yes

in fact i would be inclined to take it in uncorrected and make them do it with you

but won't that just make the interview even longer??

It already says it'll take about an hour.......that's 1hr out of my birthday gone already - perhaps it would be easier if I corrected it before I go??

it's on your birthday?