Men who always want 'their woman' pregnant

[CherryGarcia23]

My friend and I met on a playdate yesterday, both of our children start school next September and we were discussing primary school applications.

Friends husband has told her she needs to start preparing to get pregnant so she has something to do whilst their child is at school. Friend in no way wants this and has told husband she intends on getting back onto the bank list for nursing.

Husband has told her she is not going back to work as they will have another baby, if she goes back to work he will not be helping atall with anything child related, financially or otherwise. He told friend she is a disapontment to him and not the woman he thought he'd married?

I'm at a loss as to why her husband wants another child as he has been very hands off. Both children born by C-Section on a Friday, husband back at work on the Monday leaving friend completley on her own 3 days post C-Section .... TWICE! Husband is out of the house 7am - 7pm 5 days per week, and his weekends are for him to 'rest and recouperate.' He has never once fed either child through the night either.

Why on earth would a man like that be demanding another child? What the hell is his deal? Is this male behaviour common?

Friend has the could and zero plans on removing it, thankfully! I'm hoping he doesn't wear her down.

@Bananalanacake Yes, at the beginning of the year when she went to get her coil changed.

I only know of one man like this (thankfully) and he was an abuser of the worst kind.

This isn't 'men', this is 'man'. That kind of attitude is extremely rare

I'm not sure this is true, men do baby trap, there are reddit threads on it.

This post really struck a cord with me. When I married DH in 1990 I was 25 and he was 38. He was a very high earner and wanted me to be a SAMH which suited me fine as I didn’t have a career to speak of and didn’t much care for the office job I had. His mother had been a SAMH too and his father was a businessman with a lot of irons in the fire. Anyway, he wanted to start a family ASAP due to his age which I totally got and I actually got pregnant with our first child on our honeymoon in Barbados! The result was the whole of the Nineties were taken up with babies and childcare! Our first DS was born in 1991, then DD in 1993, DD2 1997 and DS2 2000. Although my DH is/was nothing like the man you describe he was as pleased as punch every time I got pregnant which I kinda took as a good thing at the time but reading this post and thinking about things over the years I can see that it fitted his idea of masculinity – higher earner, young attractive wife who he supports with an allowance, loads of kids… We wanted for nothing but he wasn’t hand on as he worked long hours. Holidays were good though and he would relax with the children and play with them and as they got older he done more with them – we owned a boat at one stage and he would take them sailing or even walking and camping which I couldn’t stand so I would have time to myself. The man you friend is married to sounds a really nasty piece of work and controlling and abusive and I agree with others that she should get out. My DH never had an issue with me seeing friends, shopping, going out to the theatre etc and we actually moved closer to my family in south London at on stage as the family grew so I could see more of them (his family was from Yorkshire) the funny think was my dad loved being a grandfather and he also liked it when I announced another baby was due (my sister being a bit late to the party) so I do agree with the barefoot and pregnant comment – I think there are some men like it and probably my DH too though h’s 71 now so has some excuse!