Threatening to K himself

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don't know who to talk to, I’m really lost

my relationship with my partner has been rocky throughout, he’s a compulsive liar and always lets me down.

the past few weeks has been the worst, I’ve tried to break up with him a few times but he’s started to threaten to kill himself, in recent years when I tried to break up with him he would never threaten suicide but since having our baby 3 months ago he threatens it if I try to leave him.

today I caught him out in another lie, and I’m just done, I can’t go on anymore. I know it’s bad, my whole family tells me I need to leave him.

which I have, I’ve told him I’m DONE and I really mean it (although it’s extremely difficult) he’s texting me as if he’s going to end his life.

he told me he’s gone already. (We don’t live together) he’s at his home atm.

what to do? What if he really does do it? I’m petrified. I feel sick to my stomach with him

Just forward the texts he sends to you to his brother. Get yourself out of this situation. All the best.

He won’t. Sadly.

Classic abuse tactic.

Don’t forward messages - his brother knows what’s going on so you can ignore them.

Threatening suicide is abusive man 101. He won’t do it. And if he does… well it won’t be your fault.

Suicide threats are just another tool in the abusive persons box.

The police should ALWAYS be the first point of contact.

Fully handing over a responsibility that is NEVER yours.

All further contact should be via 3rd party.

Help yourself and do NOT put him on the birthcert and give the baby his name.

He won’t, my ex threatened this throughout our 12 year marriage. I’d finally had enough and the last time he said it I responded with “I think b&q have an offer on rope” never threatened it again.
maybe not the right way but it’s draining. And I snapped.
its a common tactic by manipulators and abusers. Ignore him. X

Block him and contact Women's Aid so you can do the Freedom Programme. He's following the Script and the FP will demonstrate that. Also, his actions are his responsibility, not yours.

You can't use threats to make someone stay in a relationship with you. Block his number, or turn your phone off. You don't need to listen to his shit, seriously. Focus on your baby.

Tell him that if he threatens this again you will call the emergency services. And do it. Without another warning.

If he is suicidal, he needs help. If he is abusive, you need to out the consequences of his abuse onto him.

He is just trying to control you, don't let him.