My husband of 17 years cheated on me earlier this year. To say this came our of the blue is an understatement. Yes there were issues in our relationship but he was universally known as a good guy. I believed he was a good guy and a great father.
I was devastated and although we have stayed together it has been very very up and down since. After 8 months, I’ve come to the conclusion that he broke our marriage vows, which I took very seriously, and I can’t get over that fact. I never wear my wedding and engagement rings now. I can’t bring myself to. I consider that our marriage ended the first time he cheated on me- 1st March this year. We did not celebrate our 17th anniversary in the summer- why would I?
my question is this. Has anyone else been in this situation? We are in limbo. Even if we continue in our relationship, I strongly feel that that marriage is over. I’m wondering if I should divorce him and then keep seeing him and having a ‘new’ relationship with him or is that mental?
the broken marriage vow is a major stumbling block for me.
And, please be kind. I am extremely vulnerable emotionally at the moment. This past 8 months has broken me.