We’ve spoken about marriage/children/our future and thought we were on the same page. I accidentally discovered a couple of months ago that my partner has bought a ring. I said nothing and was really excited and thought a proposal was coming soon, but still nothing has happened. I assumed he was planning something special but as more time passes the more on edge I feel and worry that he’s changed his mind.
Also there’s been a couple of proposals and pregnancy announcements in our friend group which I’d usually be happy about but it’s been really upsetting me that people are progressing in their relationships and I feel stuck still until he decides to propose.
As a side note, I also know how much he spent on the ring and I can’t help but think I’m going to be a bit disappointed when I see it. We earn decent salaries and he’s spent a tiny fraction of his savings - I know it’s not about how expensive it is but seems like he’s gone cheap.
I can’t talk to him and ask why hasn’t he proposed yet as that would mean telling him I know about the ring - but it’s making me upset that I’m stuck in this limbo situation and feels like I might be waiting forever and building things up only to be disappointed. Any advice?