Is he flirting?

[HarrietSmarriet]

I'm going mad trying to figure out this guy's intentions so am turning to this wonderful nest of vipers for opinions. Name changed to keep separate from my other posts.

This guy works at an organisation that run an activity my kids attend. We have had minimal contact but have had a few interesting conversations in group settings recently.

Two weeks ago, we both chaperoned an event for the kids. There were definitely little smiles and comments between us, but the one that stands out in mind was when a song came on and as he walked past me he said "I can imagine you dancing to this song".

Later, while we were walking and talking, he put his hand on my upper arm and held it there as he spoke, for what felt like a significant amount of time. I haven't had a chance to speak to him since, but am I reading it completely wrong or does it seem like he's interested/flirting?

Is this for real?

You sound 13 years old.

I recommend giving your head a wobble and having a cup of tea.

He could be. But really with only this info he could also just be being friendly.
Do you want him to be flirting? If so, just be friendly back and see where it goes.
If he is interested, you'll know soon enough.

And ignore the shitty first response. Someone is obviously having a bad day or something 🙄

It’s hard to say. Are you both single? Does he act differently with the other mums?

The dance comment sounds mildly suggestive.

Sounds possible but hard to say if not been there. Do you fancy him?

Sounds flirty, but what's his personality usually like. Some people would talk like this to the kettle. 😆 Others it's a flaming beacon 😁 (if this was my DH it would defo be flirting 😍)

Are you both single?

Do you feel better for saying this?

I think it's possible. Do you like him?

YES!!!

This "does he fancy me?" stuff belongs in the playground.

No wonder so many grown women end up in shitty relationships when this is how they approach them.

We need clarification:
A. Are you both single?
B. Are YOU interested in HIM?

Sounds mildly flirtatious, but then some people just like to flirt a bit without being interested.

Are you interested? That's the question. If you are, you have two options: wait it out and see whether he makes any advances or take the lead. We'd all like cast iron guarantees that someone is interested before we make ourselves vulnerable, but unfortunately, there are none!

The ball is in your court!

How did you meet the love of your life?

You've obviously taken this very personally.

Perhaps you have a sit down and a cup of tea as well.

What was the song op? there’s a difference between oops upside your head and shakira !

Erm yeah, totally giving off flirtation vibes! X

Thanks all. I'm definitely interested but have been out of the game a long time. Both single as far as I know. But because of his involvement in the kids activity I would hate to misread things and make it awkward.

Your attitude is probably why yours is so poor you’ve had to divert away from the question presented to you.

Shitposting to bring others down on a Friday night isn’t cool - put the gin away and go to bed.

Yes, we need to know the song!

Yup, ignore the first post. The 'does he, doesn't he' bit is fun for its own sake- enjoy it! Especially as it sounds like he does....

To be honest I can't even remember the song. And in the moment I didn't think anything much of it, just remember thinking I'd need a few drinks first. It was a little later when playing it back over that I thought "hang on, that seems suggestive".

Not at all. I've been married for years. I just find your comment a bit unintelligent.

Oh stop being so precious. You're the ones hijacking the thread - not me.

I said my piece and now you can't let it go. RomComs aren't real life and will they won't they plots are even more ridiculous in real life than they are on screen.

Talk to the man. It really isn't more complicated than that.

Not having tea @GirlWithGuitar having a nice glass of wine. You are coming across as someone who is quite annoyed.

It's ok, don't all get your knickers into knots over each others replies.

I'm not 14 and I'm not weak. But I haven't dated since I lost my husband, natural opportunities to talk to this guy alone are few and far between, I would hate to make things awkward if my flirt radar is out of practice and it's been on my mind, so thought I would ask while I was having trouble sleeping. No offence taken and all answers welcome.

You can’t always ‘just talk to the man’ though can you? You need some idea or it can be hurtful and embarrassing. Also, a little wondering and flirtation keeps you young at heart!
from what you said OP it’s really hard to tell tbh. He could just be friendly.
He must know you a bit to mention dancing ? Does he know you like dancing or seen you dance or something?