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Is a bit of faceapp really that terrible and fake?

38 replies

notbadfor50 · 09/11/2023 19:42

Hello all, I am just into my 50s and feel that I've done well with skincare etc. I've just started using faceapp for a little bit of tweaking to my photos - nothing heavy or ridiculous. This is purely for me to feel a bit better and not used to show off to anyone or pretend i'm something i'm not, hence hardly anyone sees the photos. I was having a discussion with my boyfriend and we were slightly at odds with each other but not arguing as such. He suddenly blurted out that I was a fake person and at least he is happy with the way he looks unlike me and not photoshopping himself! He said I didn't look as good as I used to and should just accept it. I thought that was very mean an uncalled for. I'm not trying to look like a young girl or using filters that drastically change myself. In contrast, my boyfriend has not looked after himself at all and is aging more rapidly. I felt quite hurt at his comment. Is a bit off faceapp really that bad to make myself feel abit more confident? Should i bin this man? He is quite old fashioned in many ways whereas I have moved with the times generally.

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category12 · 09/11/2023 19:45

Seems a bit pointless to tweak photos you're not even showing anyone.

Allfourwalls · 09/11/2023 19:46

Why does Faceapp make you feel more confident? Surely it has the opposite effect and makes you feel worse about yourself in real life? Ditch the app.

SweetBirdsong · 09/11/2023 19:46

Balls to what he says! With the age of HD being with us, close ups are not kind to us 45+ ladies! 😬 They show lines and blemishes that aren't seen by people looking at you from 3-6 feet away, and are unkind. Selfies are brutal, and they make the nose look bigger and also the chin/jaw.

I am nearly 50, and when have pics taken from 3-4 feet away by someone, and look different. I look better, and just look roughly my age. I look 7-10 years older on selfies!!! I use 'beautify' on selfies as it softens the look. I look 5 years younger on 'beautify'.. I don't look 21!! Nothing wrong with the odd bit of tweaking @notbadfor50 Grin

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notbadfor50 · 09/11/2023 19:47

category12 · 09/11/2023 19:45

Seems a bit pointless to tweak photos you're not even showing anyone.

I'm seeing them and it's not affecting him in the slightest. I do things for myself, not others.

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justalittlesnoel · 09/11/2023 19:48

What he said was very rude! But it's also silly to faceapp your photos. Take a more flattering photo by all means but photoshopping it is a step too far imo

roarrfeckingroar · 09/11/2023 19:48

Of course it's dishonest.

roarrfeckingroar · 09/11/2023 19:49

He's also a dick. His comments are cruel.

Howbizarre22 · 09/11/2023 19:50

What a horrible comment he made how is that supportive? You do you OP!! A lot of people do what you’re doing. It would be silly to completely filter the photos to death of course but the odd tweak is fine imo! Does he also think it’s fake if you enhance your appearance with make up? He needs to get over himself!!

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notbadfor50 · 09/11/2023 19:53

SweetBirdsong · 09/11/2023 19:46

Balls to what he says! With the age of HD being with us, close ups are not kind to us 45+ ladies! 😬 They show lines and blemishes that aren't seen by people looking at you from 3-6 feet away, and are unkind. Selfies are brutal, and they make the nose look bigger and also the chin/jaw.

I am nearly 50, and when have pics taken from 3-4 feet away by someone, and look different. I look better, and just look roughly my age. I look 7-10 years older on selfies!!! I use 'beautify' on selfies as it softens the look. I look 5 years younger on 'beautify'.. I don't look 21!! Nothing wrong with the odd bit of tweaking @notbadfor50 Grin

Thank you! This is what I see when taking photos but not in the mirror.

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PictureOfFlorianTray · 09/11/2023 19:54

Anyone who knows you will know that you've tweaked.

Had a colleague once, in her twenties, who tweaked her photos. She looked like she was in her teens. The tweak was very obvious.

I suspect that your FB friends will know that you're tweaking but wouldn't dare say anything to save embarrassment.

Don't do it.. everyone will know.

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notbadfor50 · 09/11/2023 19:54

Allfourwalls · 09/11/2023 19:46

Why does Faceapp make you feel more confident? Surely it has the opposite effect and makes you feel worse about yourself in real life? Ditch the app.

I use it because I think phone cameras distort the real image of me and doesn't reflect what I see in the mirror. I don't want to ditch it.

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notbadfor50 · 09/11/2023 19:56

roarrfeckingroar · 09/11/2023 19:48

Of course it's dishonest.

To who though? I'm not sending them to anyone and I don't look much different. The camera phone distorts my face and faceapp just makes it look more like me.

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Darkdiamond · 09/11/2023 19:58

I deleted Snapchat because it made me feel my own face was inferior. Which it isn't. There's nothing wrong looking like a normal human being.

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notbadfor50 · 09/11/2023 19:58

justalittlesnoel · 09/11/2023 19:48

What he said was very rude! But it's also silly to faceapp your photos. Take a more flattering photo by all means but photoshopping it is a step too far imo

Camera phones distort the face though.

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BecauseTheWorld · 09/11/2023 19:59

You’re doing it wrong. Make sure all your online photos are awful so when you see people in real life they think you look amazing.

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notbadfor50 · 09/11/2023 19:59

Howbizarre22 · 09/11/2023 19:50

What a horrible comment he made how is that supportive? You do you OP!! A lot of people do what you’re doing. It would be silly to completely filter the photos to death of course but the odd tweak is fine imo! Does he also think it’s fake if you enhance your appearance with make up? He needs to get over himself!!

That's a good point you've made!

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Cas112 · 09/11/2023 20:03

I can't stand it. It is fake and i think it's really sad that women can't even take a photo anymore without tweaking it trying to convince themselves they look like that. It's a viscous cycle, people need to be more accepting of natural unphotoshopped pictures, it's not good for self esteem at all, it does the opposite of what you think it does.

ButterMyParsnip · 09/11/2023 20:06

It does seem like a mean comment. That being said, any sort of photoshop is only kidding yourself. I work with a few women who have altered photos for their Teams profile. It just seems silly and pointless when people know what they look like. Who are you altering photos for?

Wouldyouguess · 09/11/2023 20:24

ButterMyParsnip · 09/11/2023 20:06

It does seem like a mean comment. That being said, any sort of photoshop is only kidding yourself. I work with a few women who have altered photos for their Teams profile. It just seems silly and pointless when people know what they look like. Who are you altering photos for?

OP said a few times for no one but herself, so no one else sees them.

There is no harm and I think yur BF is a dick OP.

Walkingtheplank · 09/11/2023 20:30

Your partner was rude but everyone knows your photoshopping. A 58 year old friend of mine uses FaceApp and she ends up looking about 18 year, which makes her look absurd.
The silly thing is that because she posts so many '18 yr old' photos that when I meet up with her my first thought is always how old she looks.

Ladyj84 · 09/11/2023 20:36

Dot believe in tweaking photos and can't stand photos that have been lol. I'm me and this is what you see

OhBeAFineGuyKissMe · 09/11/2023 20:38

I don’t get why you are taking photos no-one else sees, are they events or occasions you want to remember or are you just taking selfies and then using Faceapp?

How often are you doing this, is there a chance you are getting obsessed with this?

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 09/11/2023 20:40

I don't understand why it would make you feel more confident if you're not showing them to people. What's the point if they're just for you to look at? You can't deceive yourself- you know perfectly well what you look like without the filters!

I use it because I think phone cameras distort the real image of me and doesn't reflect what I see in the mirror. I don't want to ditch it.

That makes no sense. The camera lies, but the filters tell the truth?

5128gap · 09/11/2023 20:46

Definitely bin him. He is deliberately playing on your insecurity to make you feel worse about yourself which is cruel. No one needs a cruel partner.
As for the tweaking, I'm your age but for some reason look years younger in (untouched) photos. I HATE it. Because all it does is show me what I don't look like and makes me feel worse. Are you sure this app is helping your confidence? Because while it may give an instant boost, you know its not a true reflection, so surely in the longer term that's worse? If I were you I'd be trying to accept your real appearance. Improve it if you want to, or come to terms if you don't because I honestly can't see your way doing you any good.

haribosmarties · 09/11/2023 21:01

That was mean of him! I sometimes use faceapp well a different app but similar.. to add a bit of extra eye makeup or soften my skin.. I don't see the problem
You should do whatever makes you happy.
To me its no different from wearing foundationtion or dying my hair. I don't always wander around looking completely natural in real life so what's the difference if I don't do it online?!
But then I do love photography and play about with photos and the colours and angles not just of people of anything... I don't only take realistic photos.
I don't get how precious some people get over pictures when you can literally look completely different if you just stand in slightly different lighting....
What constitutes the 'real' you? 100 people might see you during the day and you'll look different to every single one of them.
To me it doesn't matter. Have your photos how you enjoy looking at them.

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