Is a bit of faceapp really that terrible and fake?

[notbadfor50]

Hello all, I am just into my 50s and feel that I've done well with skincare etc. I've just started using faceapp for a little bit of tweaking to my photos - nothing heavy or ridiculous. This is purely for me to feel a bit better and not used to show off to anyone or pretend i'm something i'm not, hence hardly anyone sees the photos. I was having a discussion with my boyfriend and we were slightly at odds with each other but not arguing as such. He suddenly blurted out that I was a fake person and at least he is happy with the way he looks unlike me and not photoshopping himself! He said I didn't look as good as I used to and should just accept it. I thought that was very mean an uncalled for. I'm not trying to look like a young girl or using filters that drastically change myself. In contrast, my boyfriend has not looked after himself at all and is aging more rapidly. I felt quite hurt at his comment. Is a bit off faceapp really that bad to make myself feel abit more confident? Should i bin this man? He is quite old fashioned in many ways whereas I have moved with the times generally.

So you're not willing to ditch Faceapp but you're willing to ditch your boyfriend over it? I think there's your answer.

I don't get filters and whatnot. If I haven't seen anyone for a while but have seen the photos they post on SM. It's always a bit jarring when seeing them IRL. If they ever went missing we'd probably be screwed finding a photo to give to police.

He's a dick though. He's allowed an opinion but keep the bugger to himself unless asked.

Why are you taking photos of yourself and who are they for?

If it's for social media, who cares what you look like unless you are a professional model.

I’ll be honest and say that I hate the fake/blurred/plastic look! Almost every female profile I see on Facebook they are using filters on their pictures! Why? It’s not how they look in real life. I’m not sure how using Face app can make you feel better about yourself when you know full well you don’t look the same in real life

How is he seeing the pics if it’s only for you? Are you continually showing them to him and he’s got fed up?
i have aged terribly due to several health blips and major traumatic events.
i always looked young for my age, people never believed my true age but they do now.
its a shock to see your face age but those filters don’t fool anyone.
they can look really weird to other people and look ok to the subject but they are creepy.
maybe get some make up tips or change your hair, Dave routine, clothing style etc and you might feel happier with yourself
and ditch the mean man

I really don't understand the need to lie to yourself, by touching up pictures.

There is a colleague who has used a picture on work profile that couldn't identify her, it has caused a few embarrassing moments.

But when mentioned she adamant it is a true reflection of herself.

The worst is when people go missing and the pictures look nothing like them!

Who cares about the photos, you're not hurting anyone unless you're obsessive about it. He made a really hurtful comment though, ouch. What are the other things you said you didn't like ?

In contrast, my boyfriend has not looked after himself at all and is aging more rapidly.

What does this mean? How does "not looking after yourself" mean you age more rapidly? It does sound like you are maybe setting a lot of store on faking looks

I'm not sure how tweaking your face on photos gives you more confidence, unless you are never likely to meet anyone IRL.

As pp said, it's always a bit of a shock to see people face to face who post up flawless photos of themselves on SM. But then I suppose if everyone does it, the idea of having a different 'online face' will become the new normal.

In contrast, my boyfriend has not looked after himself at all and is aging more rapidly

If a man made this comment about a woman we might think he was being a little harsh!

If my man started using filters I’d probably have a word with him! I’d find it offputtingly uncool. So if this whole post was written from your man’s point of view I’d probably sympathise a bit.

I think that's the problem. Everyone does see my I have an online image vs a real life one and the shock can be real

I'm reasonably happy with how I look (at times) but social media encourages you to compare yourself with others. The problem is most ladies I know tend to use faceapp/beautify/filters so it's as if you're seeing your natural self against their fake image.

I don't post much on social media, certainly not selfies. But when I do see someone I know posting a stunning (but edited) selfie I often think to myself "I could look like that if I used faceapp" - and I have in the past tried it to see the difference.

OP you sound like you may be used to dating etc (as opposed to 30+ years married). I'm the same, before my current boyfriend I'd been single for 6 years after a messy divorce. I think our mentality of trying to look as good as others in the same age bracket can come from feeling like the dating pool is very much a looks-based competition against women of the same age. It's almost like we're going to be compared based on our photos - this extends to social media not just dating apps - so it feels more of a level playing field since nearly everyone else is doing it.

Anyway, ramble aside, if it makes you feel better then go for it!! He sounds insecure and is worried you'll meet someone else better

He made a mean comment, but the level of self absorption someone would have to photoshop themselves is really odd.

The said the truth but his delivery was harsh. I think filtering photos and taking selfies in a distorted camera lense ruin confidence. The solution isn't to edit them because you will not edit them to how others actually see you. It will just end up looking unlike you.
I agree that you'd want to look better in reality than in photos.. pleasant surprise vs awkward shock. If a photo is needed for social media or dating, go unfiltered and taken with back camera by someone else or on a timer. If for websites like LinkedIn or work then a professional photographer.