Boyfriend and I bought a dog a few months ago (well I paid) we don't live together yet but that's the next step! I'm looking to move into a bigger place when I find something which is proving tricky there's a huge housing shortage.
He was laid of a few weeks ago and he's done nothing really to find more work. He seems to have gone into abit of a miserable place and he is coming across really selfish. I have felt invisible recently and he thinks our time together is fine. But it isn't. He's not trying. He is being very boring. Won't even arrange a walk. He thinks eating dinner and going to sleep is fine. But everytime I leave his house I think what a waste of my evening or weekend. I sat down and spoke to him calmly about how I felt we needed to try amd get moving again abit. He got defensive. Another week past. Some story. So I spoke to him again. He got defensive and dismissed my feelings.
On Tuesday he messaged me. He said he wanted to do something nice for me. He was getting his universal credit on Thursday and wanted £50 that he'd return. He said he wanted to go shopping. Get something nice for dinner and pick up a game for the xbox ( we do enjoy games night occasionally) and he said about us sleeping together as we haven't in a while. I finished work and called him. He had picked up a £6 game from cex and said he hadn't been to get dinner yet because he didn't want to look dodgy walking into shops with this game. An hour later he said shall I get us an Indian with this money. I said yes. Got ready and started walking the mile to his house when my kids went to their dad's. I phoned him and he sounded really bored of me. I felt really uncomfortable and sad he didn't offer to walk to meet me. He made a comment on we never have anything to say because the phones non stop. I paused in the street and said do you know what, forget it I'm going home, I don't feel welcome. He started screaming down the phone I was a stupid little girl and slammed the phone down. He's sent me a few messages fully blaming me. When I call him he shouts over me. He's often said in the past everything gets taken away from him and he hates me having control over his feelings because I can take it away.
He's now ignoring me and read my last message and ignored me..
We have a few things we share like the dog. Netflix. I have clothing at his. He has a tele on my catalogue. He has a therapist under my email and she communicates with me..we have made plans to rent a house.
I'm at a loss to what is wrong and I don't know what to do anymore.. he's silenced me so I can't communicate and it's driving me bonkers. I even had the dog food at my house and the puppy needs it.