Good. She needs to think of herself now. Be selfish. He certainly was all those years. Maybe if he finds out how much pain you go through, then he won't do it to her again or anyone else he ends up with.
This pain is a deep-rooted, soul crushing, just want to end your existence, type of pain, that you carry forward into every relationship you have with men. You start to look at all men differently. It makes you doubt your whole self, from your personality to your looks. There was a woman on a thread asking if she should get a sex change to help her man stay faithful. My heartbreaks for these women who are nothing but devoted to these selfish men, who somehow see the woman they love every day and can lie to her knowing they've had another human being I side them. My conscious would eat me alive that I think that I would burst into tears and blab the minute that he said hello. But they just act like it's a normal Tuesday. Whilst these men have many problems, their first problem is communication! Why not just tell their partner that they need a break? Or stay single? It's all double standards. This wasn't a one-time thing that he had done either, and then regretted it. He's done it for YEARS! He's probably had more d*ck than her! No way would I then still put his feelings first. If it was an addiction, then that's a lifelong thing with many having relapses. She shouldn't be looking over her shoulder in her own relationship. It's time to be selfish. I've even seen men seek out transgender women because they liked the prostate play, but they still looked somewhat female. But he wanted MEN. He didn't send her pictures. He sent them to MEN. Now she can do what she likes. You never know, a taste of his own medicine might just do the trick.
Bi men are so messy. They scold everyone for rejecting them but almost everything online from them and especially on reddit is them cheating or missing the other gender, and there are even some threads such as "marriedbimen" with different states for those seeking men or stories about them cheating. Women need to be more careful and lurk kn gay apps now and again as there is more than one out there, but most of them are blissfully unaware.
I knew of one girl who was a friend of a friend who had a gay best friend and was really supportive of all LGBTQ+. She had a homophobic boyfriend also. Turns out the best friend had slept with the boyfriend one night, and she had only found out after her friend had a drunken argument with her a whole year after it happened with her boyfriend and him. The friend said something like, "You women just dont get it. We do as we are men, and men need sex and prostate sex is something we can do, but it's not romantic, as it's just a bonding experience." I felt sick when I heard that, and almost felt like I was going through it with her.
I don't know if he did anything else, but taking the gender out of the situation, she still took the betrayal from both of them hard. The boyfriend was a blubbering mess when it all came out, as he knew the trust was gone and he had lost her, but he still put in effort to try at least. He knew he lost a gem because she was a model in looks and had a really great humble personality. Every guy wanted her! He was the jealous, insecure one. She loved him. She had a hard childhood and had built up her own family with him and her friend. She ended up on drugs, but I can't fully put that on him. She just couldn't handle the emotions she was dealing with on her own.