Hi lovely people,
This is one of those messages where I think I already know what the responses will be but my anxiety levels are so stupid right now and I need to write it down (I'm aware I shouldn't let someone else do that to me).
A guy I have dated on and off for years has always felt like 'my person' for years. He either wasn't ready to commit and hurt me quite badly or when he was ready I was just too scared to be hurt again. He's been working on himself this past year and we've been on and off talking a lot. However, I'm worried his main focus with me is sexual or that now that he's 40 (I'm 36) he just wants the comfort I give him.
I'm so annoyed that early on he ruined something really good by ending it because he was scared and I always feel at the mercy of him. He travels a lot for work so is often away and will message me non stop when he's away but today he's back in the country and hasn't mentioned meeting up now that he's back this week. I think I'm his link to home when he's gone....a bit of company......the messages are sometimes sexual too. I have spent all of today wishing he would mention meeting up and I'm sick of being the one to always want to meet so I didn't want to say it. Should I snap? Should I explain how it feels? Or do I just walk away? I think I know deep down I've no real future with him but I always am just waiting for the future I want with him.