‘Hi’ Message from ex

[Notmollybutdolly]

Context; had an intense thing with a guy who I’m not longer in contact with.
when I was on holiday 4 weeks ago I drunkenly messaged him just saying ‘hi’. He’s now got a girlfriend and they seem pretty in love but I was drunk when I messaged him
and I forgot about it.
the other day he messaged just saying ‘hi’ and I was shocked. I felt wierd and shaky cos I felt like I was just beginning to get over him
and nor think about him constantly as I had been doing. Anyway I replied saying ‘hi, what is it?’ And he didn’t message back!
so I went psycho and messaged saying why did you bother messaging if you’re not going to say anything. It’s rude and annoying.
then about 12 hours later he messaged saying oh I just saw your message from the other week(it was 3 weeks ago!) saying hi so I was just replying.
So I said
I had forgotton I’d messaged you.
and he said
aw well I just saw your message
and I said
Awkward

and basically that’s it. No response but him texting me out the blue really rattled
me!!
why am I so rattled by it??? Im
so pissed pdf with myself as I was really feeling a lot happier last few months.
and why would he bother to say hi back, 3 weeks later???!!

lol, are you a teenager?

You did the exact same thing to him, first.

Grow up.

The way I am acting /feeling feels like it, trust me.

Please block/delete his number on move on. Best thing for both of you and to prevent any further drunk texting.

I know I should do this

You messaged him out of the blue.

He didn't message out of the blue, you messaged him! Why are you messaging an ex that has a girlfriend?

Because I’m a stupid idiot when I’m drunk.

Well?

Delete his number to stop yourself from acting stupid again.

But why did he feel the need to reply - even 3 weeks later? Why didn’t he just leave it and delete it? Why reply?

Who knows? Loads of reasons. Maybe he was drunk.

Yes maybe.

Politeness? Nosiness?

Does it matter? He's not single so move on and perhaps stop drinking alcohol.

He was testing the waters. He has a GF. Block him. You did start this OP.... so finish it.

Ermm you did it first!!
Block his number, delete his number, whatever - just get over it and move on. You're making this an event that he concocted, when it was you.

It doesn’t matter and there is no need for you to know. Please just block him.

Presumably you're not drunk now though so delete / block before you do it again.

If you can't control yourself when you're drunk to not do stupid, actually quite self-absorbed things since he has a girlfriend, then you have no choice but to delete his number and thus your conversation thread. Even if you like re reading it, tough, it's not available to you.
Him responding to you is him being polite. You then went batshit. I would be very surprised if hasn't blocked you from his end, and if he hasn't, it's because he doesn't care enough.

Dont message people when drunk. You will ALWAYS regret it.

Maybe he'd had a fall out with his GF and was being a twat....
How long ago did it end?

About 6 months ago. I feel like there was an overlap between me and his GF but me and him were never official, it was very complicated.
he was messaging me to meet up (tbh I knew we wouldn’t) literally weeks before he went away with his new GF abroad and they like announced theyr relationship.
i just feel sad nnsorry on myself tonight I guess. I think I was being used in our ‘situation ship’

I feel like you want responses here telling you he’s still thinking about you/missing you/fancies you. Reality is he doesn’t give a toss. Delete him and get on with your life.

Exactly unfortunately

Mate please delete his number, he's not going to be arsed about you going mad, he's just going to think you're crazy

So are you going to delete his number? Everyone is saying you should, you're saying you should and yet....