‘Hi’ Message from ex

[Notmollybutdolly]

Context; had an intense thing with a guy who I’m not longer in contact with.
when I was on holiday 4 weeks ago I drunkenly messaged him just saying ‘hi’. He’s now got a girlfriend and they seem pretty in love but I was drunk when I messaged him
and I forgot about it.
the other day he messaged just saying ‘hi’ and I was shocked. I felt wierd and shaky cos I felt like I was just beginning to get over him
and nor think about him constantly as I had been doing. Anyway I replied saying ‘hi, what is it?’ And he didn’t message back!
so I went psycho and messaged saying why did you bother messaging if you’re not going to say anything. It’s rude and annoying.
then about 12 hours later he messaged saying oh I just saw your message from the other week(it was 3 weeks ago!) saying hi so I was just replying.
So I said
I had forgotton I’d messaged you.
and he said
aw well I just saw your message
and I said
Awkward

and basically that’s it. No response but him texting me out the blue really rattled
me!!
why am I so rattled by it??? Im
so pissed pdf with myself as I was really feeling a lot happier last few months.
and why would he bother to say hi back, 3 weeks later???!!

Hi have deleted it. Hi

I have deleted it but it was always deleted that why I got a shock yesterday when he messaged. I wish I could’ve just blocked him. He was doing weird things last month as well, like liking a pic on insta from 2017???!! And adding me as a friend then deleting me. So I made my insta private now.

This sounds like a lot of hard work for a mediocre sort of man. Don’t give it any more headspace. The next guy will be better!

Thank you. I know. I was just so obsessed with him.

Block him on everything OP. You risk him using you for sex again at some point.

Your response was leftover emotion from what'd happened before between you and how he'd made you feel- unwanted etc. It's not unheard of, laying some ghosts to rest. But you need to block him everywhere- when he's horny he's trying to keep you as an option that's open for a shag.

Also, don't let yourself get that drunk. x

Thank you for your thoughtful reply x

I get it, OP. I had a guy like this who kept popping in and out of my life every couples of months for ages. I liked him sooooooo much and I was young and only focused on those immediate feelings. What it really takes is hindsight and you can’t grow that overnight. But it also comes down to this: know your worth. Are you really worth all this dumb game playing from a guy who could take you or leave you? Or are you worth a guy who wakes up everyday and can’t believe his luck that he’s with you?

Definitely delete him on everything, even the things you don’t think you'll see him on (linked in etc).

Sometimes people get this enmeshed in your life, nothing bad with that really, but if you’re not suited best to get them deleted so you’re not drawn in time and time again.