Generally get no help with DS from parents so asked this morning if the could watch him for a bit as me and DP badly in need of an hour out together. They agreed to take him for the morning and had also offered to buy him some shoes. I appreciated both these things greatly, and asked that he be brought back at 12.30pm, 12.45 at the latest after his lunch as he normally has a couple of hours sleep then.
So 1pm and he isn't back. I call and apparently he's still eating and won't stop and they'll bring him back when he's done. He finally comes back at 2pm, with new shoes - AND a f@#king haircut!! I was really upset about this; I know it's hardly life or death but it was our decision to make. We had been discussing taking him for a haircut but I wanted to keep it slightly longer, not a short back and sides, but my mum's cut it herself.
The life or death stuff comes here - DP asked if he could get the car seat out of my mum's car for her, and she made some flippant remark about how she doesn't know how to put it in properly, let alone get it out. WHen he went to get it it was fastened in wrong and really loose, and he's obviously done about 3 trips in it like that. We've shown them several times how to do it but they always just brush us off and say it's under control. Then to really top things off DS didn't sleep properly as it was too late and has been up all night throwing up, probably due to being stuffed to within an inch of his life. I've asked them repeatedly not to feed him off a spoon, just to give him the food and let him do it himself but my mum insists on trying to do so. (But tells me about it after the event, if I saw her I would stop her.)
I just don't get why they disregard everything we say and do whatever they want, and are so blase about things that are actually really important. I feel totally disrespected and annoyed that I'm going to have to expend energy having this out with them tomorrow. But how do I get through to them and how do I deal with it, when they won't listen to me?