Hi everyone
looking for advice. I was in a relationship for 16 years and have 5 kids together , we broke up 2.5 years ago. This past year I found out I had cancer, had surgery and treatment in March this year, and have been doing well since. During that time I felt alone , I had my friends but I missed that male companionship, so my friend told me life’s to short go out and meet a nice guy , so she put me on a dating app called hinge. The next day I was mailed by a man, we went on several dates and became close, it was all good and I felt alive again. He introduced me to his mum , kids and grand kids after 5 weeks, This was a massive step for both of us. We are together only 6 months now but feels longer. Anyhow, 3 weeks ago. My other friend went on hinge and she was looking to find a date and came across my partner, she showed me this , and I was gutted. I ended up making a fake profile and low and behold there he was, the account that he told me he deleted. It said he was active that day. I confronted him and he said it was deleted months and didn’t no what was going on. That was crap, u need the app to be active. I ended it , and didn’t speak to him for 2 days. My heart was broke. I ended up making more fake profiles and found him still on tinder,and match.com, the trust is gone now completely, but I still love him. We ended up chatting and mailing again. He eventually ended up admitting to me he was on them but he Dosent no why he did and he was sorry, he works away during the week, texts me a lot during the day and he video calls me from his bed every night. So he has no time to meet anyone. And then he sees me at the weekends. I no he dosent sleep well so I’m thinking he is on these sites to pass the time,? But in my eyes this is still cheating, ?? Do any of u agree? I am so glad I didn’t introduce my kids to him yet. I didn’t feel ready. He wants to meet them , but I don’t no what to do anymore. I love him but my gut saying this won’t work. Please help xxx