My recent FB, wants us to get pregnant!!!

[CreationNat1on]

This is mental. Long story short:

I connected with a guy on a dating app, and it turns out we vaguely knew each other, then when talking we duscivered many, many connections. For example I live a cross the road from his deceased grandparents house, families know each other, he knows my ex H.

He is broody, and his parents are eager for a grandchild, he is an only child. His family and mine are very similar in many ways (except his family is small and mine is big - similar to my ex H). My family all heartedly embrace procreation (joke)!

He likes how my 2 sons have turned out, similar interests to him and ex H.

However I m older than him, already have children etc and I guess I m not the "rose", that his parents might like (on paper).

He would be quite happy with a surprise pregnancy!!! Even if we weren't a settled couple, I think he ld quite happily assume my ex H s position. Either happy relationship or happy Co parenting..... He wants me to have his baby and give his parents the grandchild they want..... And if it was an "accident", then he doesn't have to rake responsibility for the recklessness of it........ This is small minded catholic Ireland, once the conception took place there would be no going back.

He wants me to trap him!!! Maaaad stuff..

I know I should be running for the hills, but they are multimillionaires..... Lols... And he wants one big happy family with me and my sons and his pal, my ex H, and our new baby. Quite happy for new baby to have half siblings abd a big family.

It ll never happen, i m 44 and perimenopsusal. I ve told him it's unlikely to happen as my fertility will have dropped dramatically. Frankly we are not in a relationship, so the whole 8dea is insane, but just thouth I ld share, as life can be funny.

By the way I ve no intention in facilitating his plan, and I understand the need for contraception and safe sex.

He wants for us to accidentally get pregnant, like 2 teenagers.

He sounds ridiculous.

Your body your choice

Exactly.

He is ridiculous because he is spoilt rotten, but it's also quite funny (I think)

What are you saying with the small minded Catholic Ireland bit. That you would have to go through with a pregnancy whatever. That's just not true and any small minded position is completely on any individuals you might know. There's no restrictions on choice in Ireland anymore and Ireland has one of the most active pro choice positions in Europe. The perpetuating of this myth that our State is dictated to by the Catholic church is really insulating. Literally any measure of social Liberalism will find modern Ireland at the top.

Sounds every mans dream. He gets you up the duff, your problem not his. He just gets the nice side, seeing kid couple of hours a week to show his family and you get the drudge. What a prick

If he wanted a child with you then why will he not make it official and date you properly?

Sounds like he has a breeding kink.

That was what instantly sprang to my mind too

What on earth am I reading, you have spoken to a guy online and you are talking about starting a family together but that's ok because you live across from his dead granny's house and your parents know or kind of know his parents ?

He wants you, your children, your ex and his ' Pal' to co parent together . I think I would be ending that conversation, are you sure it's not someone winding you up?

No, we ve met, gone on dates etc, it's true, I know, it s bonkers.

He sounds like an entitled prick.

You are right, he is an entitled, spoilt, brat. Mostly clueless, in fact, dream world.

Thank you for the sensible mumsnet replies!

Eurgh, is that even real? I’d never even heard the term until recently. I assumed it was some gross porn-driven phenomenon that’s arisen over the last five or so years.

So, he wants a brood mare, basically?

Or like some Tudor king a woman to provide an heir to his dynasty.

Why use your fertility as the reason it won’t happen (especially when peri seems to give many women a hormonal / fertility surge, and so many women on MN report happy successful pregnancies in their 40s, me included). Surely your CHOICE is the reason.

Beware your own motives as much as his.

Unless you want to be single mother of the heir to his sainted parents.

P.S it doesn’t sound ‘bonkers’ or funny to me, it sounds stupid, distasteful and laden with red flags.

Focus on your existing children and mind what you lead them into.

That is something I would expect to a 13 year old say, think about what you want to do and do the opposite best for actual children that way

You both sound insane.

Tell him you need to be using condoms until you both have a clear std check. Also put your foot down and say you don't want any more DC. I had my 2nd and last at 40, too knackered by 44 to do it all over again.

CreationNat1on · Today 11:13
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You are right, he is an entitled, spoilt, brat. Mostly clueless, in fact, dream world.
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Thank you for the sensible mumsnet replies!

So wtf are you even communicating with him?

Is this your revenge on your oft - mentioned Ex? A man who wants to co-opt your kids as his own, take over father role… and he is a MILLIONAIRE to boot? Wouldn’t that be one in the eye for Ex!

Set him free

Plenty of child-free lovely ladies un their 30s

Sounds like some handmaid's tale bullshit. He's expecting you to be an incubator and a babysitter so he can pop in and out his kids life as he pleases. Fuck that.

Would you entertain him if he was penniless?

WTAF?

Obviously - not for you.

But there may be women out there who’d like to have a child but don’t want a proper relationship. A set up he is proposing can work for someone.