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My recent FB, wants us to get pregnant!!!

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CreationNat1on · 20/10/2023 19:49

This is mental. Long story short:

I connected with a guy on a dating app, and it turns out we vaguely knew each other, then when talking we duscivered many, many connections. For example I live a cross the road from his deceased grandparents house, families know each other, he knows my ex H.

He is broody, and his parents are eager for a grandchild, he is an only child. His family and mine are very similar in many ways (except his family is small and mine is big - similar to my ex H). My family all heartedly embrace procreation (joke)!

He likes how my 2 sons have turned out, similar interests to him and ex H.

However I m older than him, already have children etc and I guess I m not the "rose", that his parents might like (on paper).

He would be quite happy with a surprise pregnancy!!! Even if we weren't a settled couple, I think he ld quite happily assume my ex H s position. Either happy relationship or happy Co parenting..... He wants me to have his baby and give his parents the grandchild they want..... And if it was an "accident", then he doesn't have to rake responsibility for the recklessness of it........ This is small minded catholic Ireland, once the conception took place there would be no going back.

He wants me to trap him!!! Maaaad stuff..

I know I should be running for the hills, but they are multimillionaires..... Lols... And he wants one big happy family with me and my sons and his pal, my ex H, and our new baby. Quite happy for new baby to have half siblings abd a big family.

It ll never happen, i m 44 and perimenopsusal. I ve told him it's unlikely to happen as my fertility will have dropped dramatically. Frankly we are not in a relationship, so the whole 8dea is insane, but just thouth I ld share, as life can be funny.

By the way I ve no intention in facilitating his plan, and I understand the need for contraception and safe sex.

He wants for us to accidentally get pregnant, like 2 teenagers.

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CreationNat1on · 21/10/2023 13:12

No I wouldn't entertain him if he was penniless, to be brutally honest. I guess local and overseas holiday homes are tempting, but not to the extent that I ld tether myself to a man child.

Nope, I won't be entertaining him any further.

I ll stay fully independent, it's best for me and my children, who I have always prioritised.

I suppose I thought his scheming was funny, I still do (!),.... The things that people get up to!

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AGAbaker · 21/10/2023 13:19

ChipAndMiss · 21/10/2023 11:24

You both sound insane.

Hahaha my thought last exactly

MillionDollarBill · 21/10/2023 13:27

Very weird. What’s with him wanting to play happy families with your ex? What would your ex think of that?

LenBast · 21/10/2023 13:30

Well, I suppose it beats "you wouldn't take a shower with your mac on".

GreigeO · 21/10/2023 13:33

I suppose I thought his scheming was funny, I still do (!),.... The things that people get up to

Im not exactly sure why, but this is coming across as disingenuous.

UnevenBalance · 21/10/2023 13:50

Well he is crazy.

And I think t9 look at it as one big joke is the right way to look at it - at least you’re not getting worried/making yourself ill wondering if it’s a possibility/you are missing something.

However, I’d wonder if carrying on seeing him as a FB is a good idea. Because well…. He IS crazy/immature etc.l.

PierceMorgansChin · 21/10/2023 13:55

Your post sounds like a humble brag and you seem flatter by his 'offer'. Concentrate on the children you have. As PP said, you are both insane

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CreationNat1on · 21/10/2023 14:02

I m flattered that someone would actively like to share their genetics with me for their one and only child (just wants one like himself).

I m insulted that he wants to engineer a trapped situation, so he is not responsible for his actions. I ld be insulted by the false him doing the honourable thing by standing by me and the accidental pregnancy. Because it's him that wants this not me.

But I am flattered that I m the person he wants to have his child with.

My ex H would be fine about it, we are all very amicable, he also is from a small family and embraces the larger family connections he has now. He is a pretty laid back, amicable guy, who dates around himself.

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Thesheerrelief · 21/10/2023 14:04

Does his name start with S by any chance? I ask because I'm in Ireland too and encountered someone who I'm pretty sure has a breeding kink recently. He also spun some tall tales about his parents.

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CreationNat1on · 21/10/2023 14:08

It's not gonna happen, I like my independence and freedom, and I don't want to start parenting all over again.

People really have no sense of humour any more......

Thanks to those that gave me a good head wobble, ha ha. I was never properly tempted to go along with it. It s just shocking how scheming people can be.

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CreationNat1on · 21/10/2023 14:08

No, not S

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AdaColeman · 21/10/2023 14:15

Your best and most sensible action would be to RUUUUN for those hills > > > > > > > >

PierceMorgansChin · 21/10/2023 14:19

CreationNat1on · 21/10/2023 14:02

I m flattered that someone would actively like to share their genetics with me for their one and only child (just wants one like himself).

I m insulted that he wants to engineer a trapped situation, so he is not responsible for his actions. I ld be insulted by the false him doing the honourable thing by standing by me and the accidental pregnancy. Because it's him that wants this not me.

But I am flattered that I m the person he wants to have his child with.

My ex H would be fine about it, we are all very amicable, he also is from a small family and embraces the larger family connections he has now. He is a pretty laid back, amicable guy, who dates around himself.

He didn't ask to marry you and introduce you to his parents, now that would be flattering. He probably spewed this insane shit knowing you are 44 and wouldn't consider it. If he is younger and a millionaire there will be plenty younger women with no children who are going to be good enough for his parents.

category12 · 21/10/2023 14:23

Spurn · 21/10/2023 09:24

Sounds like he has a breeding kink.

That.

Ofcourseshecan · 21/10/2023 14:27

I’m glad you’re seeing the funny side and not even thinking of taking up this mad offer, OP! It’s good to share, just for a laugh. Helps those of us dealing with weird people to see what far-crazier stuff is out there. 😂

Basilton · 21/10/2023 14:48

CreationNat1on · 21/10/2023 14:08

It's not gonna happen, I like my independence and freedom, and I don't want to start parenting all over again.

People really have no sense of humour any more......

Thanks to those that gave me a good head wobble, ha ha. I was never properly tempted to go along with it. It s just shocking how scheming people can be.

What exactly is funny about this though? It doesn’t even make any sense, why would be pick a 44 year old woman if he was serious about producing grandchildren. As others have said, seems more like a breeding kink and you are making yourself look daft by thinking he really wants you to have children with him.

SureWhyNotThen · 21/10/2023 16:14

I very much doubt his intentions are to choose you to share his genetics with or that he is broody. I would also suspect a breeding kink and that wouldn't be about having a child for the right reasons. Rather, the benefit of unprotected sex, the thrill and excitement of risking pregnancy and if successful, the ego boost of impregnating you like you are both animals, him being the stud.

I would question whether this man is actually good to be around yourself and your current children, who's to say that's the only kink if it is and what example would lead. Certainly not one to have a baby with.

Spottywombat · 21/10/2023 16:18

I heard a trailer for a podcast about some guy who went round telling women he was infertile recently. Several got pregnant & are now trying to make reckless impregnation an offence.

N0tfinished · 21/10/2023 16:40

Are you writing a romance novel? Cos that would be quite a plot!

ChipAndMiss · 23/10/2023 10:35

N0tfinished · 21/10/2023 16:40

Are you writing a romance novel? Cos that would be quite a plot!

But it wouldn’t be an enjoyable read because you’d spend half your time screaming that no woman would go along with this.

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