NC for this. I've been dating a man for a couple of weeks - but when I say dating, I mean, we've literally been on one date, and have been messaging a few times most days since. Our date was lovely, we spent the day and most of the evening together, talked nonstop and kissed/made out loads. I've been looking forward to seeing him again.
We don't live in the same city, but met when I was here for work. I'm back this week and we have plans to see each other this evening. So far, so good. But yesterday, he suggested that he brings a bag with him and stays with me at my hotel for a few days.
On the one hand, it's kind of sweet that he wants to spend so much time with me. I guess? On the other hand, we've been on one date and as much as I like him, I don't want to be in a room with him for days on end. Plus, we both have work to do and I have other people to see (including another date I want to go on with someone else!)
I've told him that it would be lovely to see him and for him to sleep over, but I think anything more than that is too much too soon. There's no reason why we can't see each other again a couple of days later.
I'm just worried now that there's some kind of ulterior motive for him wanting to stay? But I don't know what it would be? He's very handsome, younger than me, has a good job and a place of his own. I guess anything could be going on with him. Or maybe he just likes me. I don't know.
It's made me wonder if I should call the whole date off altogether. I am an avoidant type and an introvert and the thought of being in a room with anyone for more than 24 hours freaks me out. So I don't know if I'm worried for that reason, or whether the whole thing is a big red flag. What would you do? End it? Go for the date this evening and see how it goes? I'm swaying towards the latter but I'm unsure.