Porn....again

[Rainingagain56]

My DH laptop froze this morning, he's got to take it in for checking, I said it's all the porn you've looked at, he said I wouldn't on here because they'd see that.
I know he has, history shows that. I said you told me six months ago you wouldn't do that again, he said he hasn't, I stared at him, he never gave me eye contact and he went red, he was saved my a phone call.
He knows I'm pissed off.
Obviously he doesn't know I've seen the history. He's not that computer savvy so probably doesn't even know about it
The stuff he's looking at is he's searching specific people which I find upsetting, it's a betrayal in my eyes.

I could not love someone who used porn.
It would give me the hugest ick

Not everyone is right for each other. Maybe...just maybe....your Dai isn't the droid you're looking for. Cut the blighter loose.

@Rainingagain56
OP, just out of curiosity, how are you able to be so dismissive of your invading his privacy but feel disrespected by his actions.

In many ways lying by omission is as serious as lying outright.Do you think of yourself as being a more.honest person than your partner?

And yet the OP has said their sex life has dwindled... That doesn't make sense, unless the OP is minimising the impact on their sex life.

I think you need to get over it. a lot of people watch porn it's quite common otherwise it wouldn't be so popular. would you prefer him sexually frustrated. What do you think he masturbates to when he has no porn? do you want to control his imagination too?

One of the reasons i dumped my ex of 25 years. Repeatedly lied about using after promises after promise not to use. He knew my boundaries and shit all over them. Its not for us to tell them to stop using...theyll just do it in secret, badly. I never said you cant but i said we cannot be together if you continue.. therefore a mismatched relationship. I hated him lying about it...he betrayed me. We are all different but i see it as cheating...also i hate everything associated with porn. We had other issues though but the constant fibbing and seeing how distraught and heartbroken i was didn't stop him. I ended it

Shes allowed to be upset!! Thats her boundaries!! You have yours. Its not only porn, its objectifying, rife in trafficking, drug abuse, sexist, misogynistic etc. Let OP have her own view, she doesn't have to question her stance if she feels strong about it

ah didn't sound to me that the OP's objection was that porn is also linked to "objectifying, rife in trafficking, drug abuse, sexist, misogynistic" which you are right is awful. Sounds like she's annoyed her partner enjoys getting off too sexy images... like most of us can do. Go ahead and ban him from porn and see how well that goes...

It depends whether you're prepared to share your life with someone who wanks over potentially exploited or trafficked women. Personally, I wouldn't. Your choice.

There more to this he’s putting more time and effort into porn ( other women) than you .
He’s ignoring you and your feelings and neglecting his relationship.

He is dis respectful and taking you for granted .

You may be happier single ?

I find it gross men who constantly watch porn like are you in prison what's the need

What’s prison got to do with watching porn?!

and you realise woman watch it as well, it’s a bit unfair to single out men when last year pornhub said 35% of people who came to their site were women!