I've been with my DP 9 years, we bought a house, had IVF, had two babies. When I met him, he worked at a bookies. He didn't particularly enjoy the job, but no signs of him getting fired. I supported him through doing his teacher training, before we had children. He is a nice partner and a good dad, aside from not being able to hold a job. I wouldn't have had children with him though, had I known I would be unable to rely on him, but that ship has sailed. I have an okay job myself, working as a Quantity Surveyor, but have only done two days per week since having my first. I don't particularly enjoy my job (who does?), but worked hard prior to having children, to be in a position where I could work part time for a few years. I feel I am a good mum, and don't want to go back full time yet. My DC are 2 years and nine months, and nine months (returning off mat leave in December).
Since passing his PGSE, he got a placement at a school, didn't do well. They extended his probation, but then let him go because he apparently just wasn't doing what he needed to (despite being good with the actual children / teaching / parents liking him). He then started tutoring online, which failed as he wasn't booking enough hours. This was when we were expecting our 2nd. He got a job in Customer Care, again had probation extended, again didn't pass, when youngest was very small. Got another Customer Care job, has just not passed his probation again. All employers said he had a good attitude, but was just making too many mistakes. He also makes lots of mistakes with domestic stuff, like he's not listening, but maybe he is. He seems neurotypical, except friends have mentioned he is quite fidgety. But someone suggested today he might have ADHD or similar?
Any thoughts? He always seems genuinely upset when he loses a job. I'm at my wits end.