I’m not sure but I feel as if dp is gaslighting me over this ?
He’s always talked about colleagues , it’s not been any kind of issue he’s mentioned people eg his boss and said random and mundane things such as ‘he said this /did this’ or people on his team ‘he / she said xyz ‘ I’ve met some of his colleagues etc . All fine all ‘normal’
A while ago he mentioned’the new guy’ a few times which I thought absolutely nothing of. Then they were working on a project together so he had a couple of extra meetings and some calls and he would say for example ‘I just have to go and call the guy from work’ or talk about things and say he/him …..
We went out one evening a few weeks ago after work near to his office as id met him after work and bumped into some of his colleagues , one woman started chatting to him about the project he had said he had been working with the new ‘guy’ on. Dp went extremely weird and was just really acting odd. Clearly wanted to leave but enough had been said by that point for me to realise that the new ‘guy’ was actually this woman ???
On the way home I said ‘why did you tell me it was a man??!!’ He went ballistic saying it’s not a big deal. I said well it is - it’s weird !! He said it’s my problem and ‘everyone does it’ saying that actually I’m strange as I haven’t ?!! He was turning it round as if I have the problem for 1) having an issue with it ans asking and 2) that I’ve never done that ??!!