I've cancelled the wedding. Is it the right thing to do?

[willow1995]

Hey everyone,
Just looking for a bit if advice really.
i have been with my partner for 8 years and we have one child together and i have one from my previous relationship before.
We were due to get married in december but i have called it off (which i am incredibly upset about) because on his stag do he decided to grope another girl and take drugs. i have also just found out he had taken drugs before and decided to drive home to me and the kids while on them. it feels like i dont even know him anymore. He tried to hide this all but didnt hide him groping another girl on stag do because he felr guilty about it. I dont know what to do. i feel embarrised cancelling the wedding and losing all that money, but i cannot go through with marriage knowing that he has hiddeb things and done that. Apparntly im overreacting etc. Im just looking for some advice.

You are not overreacting
You don't know how many times he has taken cocaine in the past and it could well become a regular habit even addiction Which is also very expensive
You do not want your DC to be exposed to this and you and they deserve better
Have you a bridesmaid close friends who would help with the cancellations?
Do not feel embarrassed it takes courage not to get swept away with plans and go ahead
Whatever money you lose now will be cheaper than a divorce
Split with him completely Don't accept this

Imagine how desperate the posters are to say they’d excuse a druggie who grabs womens breasts, just to have a bloke. Tragic. 🤢

You definitely don't want to date someone who is on cocaine. It's an expensive, mood changing, highly addictive drug that you just don't want in your life.