Hi
i started speaking to a man online and we got on well. He wanted to meet sooner rather than later and I was free we agreed to meet yesterday. He told me beforehand that he will be free for a couple of hours and after that he has quite a busy day
we met, all good. Went for lunch but then whenever I would speak he was staring right at me and smiling excessively, almost laughing. It made me very nervous but I thought maybe he’s nervous himself but he kept on doing it so I told him he’s making me nervous and then he stopped
when the food arrived he dished it out for me when he seen I hadn’t taken enough saying that he knows it’s nerves why I don’t want to eat. He put way too much in my plate and I left it and he actually just ate the food from my plate lol
he was complimenting me quite a bit during our meal, sayings things like ‘you’re actually a really beautiful woman’ bla bla I was just saying thanks and changing the subject as it made me feel a bit uncomfortable
after his period of excessive smiling and when his nerves calmed down he was actually very calm and kind of mysterious. Wasn’t trying too hard didn’t seem to be acting etc. he asked me when I needed to go, I said he’s the one with the curfew but then he said he can drop his plans and can spend as long as he wants with me
we went for a walk and he asked me what I think of him, I told him he seems like an alright guy, he said that doesn’t tell me if you like me though.. I asked him the same question back and he then said I can’t say until I know what you’re thinking.
carried on walking and he said if I was to tell you I didn’t want to continue on our date would it upset you? I said no it wouldn’t. He asked what id do and I said I’d go home? What else would I do. And he kept on asking so you wouldn’t be upset? I said no why would I, we haven’t known each other long and it’s cool. it went kind of awkward after this
anyway he then asked again after some time, i repreated what I said, that he seemed alright and he told me that he likes me and would like things to progress. He asked me if I would delete my dating app!
I just kind of laughed it off and the day continued as normal. He seemed decent and came across as quite alpha but didn’t mind doing a few silly things to make me laugh. He’s attractive and I could sense that other women are probably quite charmed by him
anyway after we left each other, he texted me immediately and then carried on messaging me until I got home. (We both took train to meet at our location). He called me and told me that he missed me lol and then on messages started questioning me again about how we take things from here? I told him I barely know you and have only spoken to you a few days so I need to get to know you still. He was saying things like I want to be with you etc etc and I told him that you can’t know that after only a few days of speaking to someone/ after first date and he said you can
he already told me before our date that in the coming week he’s going to be busy with work but has now made plans for a second date. He told me he will pay for all my travel costs to meet him……
is he love bombing me or just eager? I have had experience of love bombing before but from previous experience they try to mirror your interests/likes. Try to come off like a saint etc. and then excessively be into you. this guy has not done that and in fact has told me some things already which some women would be put off by but I can’t work out if he is love bombing or not????