So how would your DH/DP feel if you went out for lunch with a male colleague?

[ceebee74]

Would they be jealous or not at all bothered?

Have arranged to go out for lunch with a manager who I work closely with and Dh says he is not bothered (but I secretly think he is ).

I think he's much less likely to be bothered given that you've told him than if you hadn't told him and he found out, if that makes any sense (or that's the attitude my DH would take!)

dh says not bothered.
but then my only male colleague is over 50, rather overweight, and not exactly catch of the day. (but a lovely man btw!)
when I asked about a tasty male colleague, he still says he's not bothered.
I think a one-off isnt exactly threatening. perhaps if it was a regular occurrence things would be different.

My Dh would think nothing of it at all. Don't know why anyone would be bothered - unless its an intimate tete a tete at some v posh restaurant.

It very much depends on the colleague. Is this your wrinkly manager who wants to talk about the re-structuring, or new office hunk who wants to get to know you better? Assuming not the latter, I can't see the problem tbh. Sounds as if you'd LIKE him to be jealous

Sounds as if you want him to be bothered by it, and are revelling in the fact that he might be....

nah, not bothered. i've gone on business trips with a male colleague where it's been just the two of us for long periods of time and DH is cool with it, and male colleague is roughly same age as me, also married.

not bothered

Not bothered.

I don't think my DH would be that bothered, but then again, he'd prefer me not to (if that makes sense!)

I went away with a male colleague for a long weekend (totally platonic!!!!) before we met, and DH wasn't ever totally cool with it...

If it was totally work related, then I don't think it's an issue, but if it wasn't, I personally would probably steer clear, but that's just me!

When I was in my 20s I often had to stay away overnight with my boss. It was quite weird having dinner with him in the evening then meeting him again for breakfast!

But dh (dp in those days) wasn't bothered - or at least he has never admitted it!

He'd be pleased that I had a nice lunch out with someone I get on with.

not bothered

I don't think he'd be arsed, but then my only male colleagues are 50+ a-sexual Captain Cardigan types

DH frequently stays away with young, glam female colleagues

Damn the lack of totty in my office

not bovvered

NomDePlume: 50+ a-sexual Captain Cardigan types are usually the ones who make a pass at you at the staff conference!

Not bothered

Nope. 1 is tiny, bald and wears short sleeved shirts with ties , has no sense of humour, hates children and doesn't celebrate christmas, wedding anniversaries, birthdays or anything. He is the most joyless, self-important person I have ever met. I doubt he has sex. Too messy.

The other is fab and cosy and funny but def not into pulling colleagues. His wife wears the trousers at home and he does as he is told.

I work in a hospital so I suppose I could go for lunch with a hunky surgeon. Unlikely though

He'd be more interested in what I had to eat and if I got a freebie tbh.
Unless it was the office hunk (there isnt one btw)
He had to go for lunch with a female colleague and I wasn't bothered, they were both on a course and only knew each other, so naturally had lunch together.
Would be rude not to!

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Why would he be bothered?

Most of my colleagues are male, so if I want to go out to lunch, it pretty well has to be with a man. It's never been any different since I first met DH so it's normal for us.

oops, i can't imagine my DH not being bothered by sharing a room tho....