Partnerships - how often does your significant other regularly spend evenings out per week

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As per the title
Weather its them socialising with friends @ a regular event 2 x evenings a week
Plus additionally volunteering 2 evenings a week..

Interested to hear ..

A relative of mine feels my partner is basically living a single life as per the number of evenings each week hes out volunteering @ x y z , in addition to out with friends a b c , then theres eve sport sometimes

Etc etc

Not enough. As much as I love him I quite enjoy a night at home alone. I’m out much more than him.

Never. I wish he did go out more as pp said I am desperate for time on my own!

None, but he has a separate building in the garden where he works and games/plays music so we each have our own space/time and it suits us both really well.

Probably once every few weeks for socialising, he's a bit of a homebody so I have to push him to go out with his friends.

Once a fortnight for a hobby he does, occasionally more.

He prefers to be at home puttering about to be honest, which is fine with me, I'm the same. Wild horses have to drag me out for a night out.

Not much but he often works in his office at home in the evenings, it’s very much get in have dinner all together and chat, then he works for a couple of hours then we watch tv together, he has an all consuming job and will retire in a couple of years and wants to finish a major project years in the making. He very occasionally goes out for a curry with his mate from University who lives not too far. I have quite a lot of friends but try and see them daytime as I have retired. His hobby is rowing and he has a machine at home, running and then he likes board games and gaming like me so we do that together sometimes. When we were young he played in a cricket team but when we had children he decided to stop playing, I have said when he retires he should join the old farts section of local cricket club.

Never and I don't necessarily think that's a good thing - I think he needs a hobby! But he's normally so knackered after work he just wants to switch off and watch tv or play xbox.

usually once a week

One a month if that but I go out once or twice at least every week.

Never - well maybe once every couple of years. I don't go out either. We have young dc and like to do bedtime for one each, and they aren't early sleepers so can't put them to bed then go out. Pre-dc we'd go out a 4-5 nights a week, though some of those would be with each other and doing hobbies rather than socialising with friends.

Never, unless I arrange it and we go together. It's not something he's shown any signs of wanting to do in all the time we've been together.

Rarely. Out for 90 mins for a hobby on a weekday and that's it.

Every week hes out for 3 week day evenings

This week 4 -

Additional eve due to where sport event fell as had season pass..

Out this sat afternoon at sport event watching due to where sport fell too

One evening playing football, probably once a fortnight he goes to watch a football match in the evening. Drinks after work maybe once a fortnight. When daylight allows, he'll play golf in the evening. It's really irrelevant what your relative thinks, if you are OK with it? I am out regularly in the evenings myself, so happy for DH to do the same.

It doesn't matter what your relative thinks, it matters how you and your partner feel about it.

I go out between 1 & 3 times a week. 2 of these are to play bridge then very occasionally I'll have a meal out with friends (like a few times a year).
The bloke I'm seeing usually goes out with his friend for a meal once a fortnight.
We don't live together so neither impact on the other, but if we did live together I couldn't see an issue with it.

Him:

• 2 nights a week for sport, very occasionally 3 (season dependent), 1 night of which is usually followed by drinks.
• He is usually out 1 day of the weekend for sport but I often go and watch and join for drinks afterwards
• Usually one night out a fortnight for drinks with friends

Me:

• One night a week for an exercise class
• Volunteering can be up to 3 evenings a week but is usually 1 or 2
• Usually one night a fortnight out for drinks with friends

He's out two evenings a week for his hobby. Out socialising (without me) probably once or twice a month.

When we had very young children we had an agreement that we could each take one evening a week and one weekend morning (plus a long weekend a year) to do whatever we wanted with - the other partner would facilitate that. DH tended to use his for playing football, I used my evening to socialise with friends and my morning to catch up on sleep usually! It made it much easier as it was agreed and there was no resentment or feeling like the other person was taking the piss.

Our DC are much older (and less relentless) now, but we've mainly stuck to that agreement because it works for us. Obviously if two things came up we wanted to do in the same week that would be fine, but it feels like a reasonable division.

Never and I like it like that as does he. we do everything together. Neither of us have any friends apart from each other, we relocated and cut all contact with anyone from our old area years ago and never made any friends in the new one don't have the desire to either. Quite happy doing hobbies/days out/pub together we also work together sometimes he's my best friend.

Twice a week, three times every other week. But the twice a week one can be overridden if I want to go out to the theatre or some such.
Generally it's ok although a little annoying as I can't take up a new hobby as it coincides with his already established night. But I feel it's more important that he gets the social aspect of his hobby as I see my friends outside of my hobbies.

I think it depends on individual circumstances and personalities on how much/little you head out. We have Two under two here so DH likes to spend evenings with them after work. By the time they are asleep he finally gets to unwind. DH goes out socialising the odd time and did a bit of volunteer work in during the summer but now there isn’t enough daylight after he finishes work to get much done.
He would have done more previous to us having the kids.

DH does none at all. I am the one out every eve with my horse and half the weekends. But it has always been thus so he knew what he was getting.

If you have / are planning to have children and he's leaving you to deal with them, it's not a partnership. If you have none, I don't see a problem.

He goes to the gym twice a week in the evenings but baths the kids before hand so I only have to put them to bed.

Other than that he might go out once or twice a month with friends.

Occasionally he has to work late but usually comes home and has dinner etc first, then heads to the garden office to work.

If it works for your relationship, it doesn't matter what is normal for others, does it?

It varies for us depending on when dh has either training or recruitment duties to do; if so, that can take him out for 2 days or evenings. He also visits a friend most weeks and a couple of others every now and again.

Hardly ever.