He is constantly scrutinising and criticising absolutely everything I do.
an example of tonight alone, after he returned from work within 10 minutes this is what I got…
he first was annoyed that I had put Halloween decorations in the living room. At Halloween/Xmas etc I love to decorate and the dc are so excited for Halloween they begged to put the decs up.. so ofcourse I did it to make them happy. It was until afterwards I realised it is rather early! Equally I’m not too bothered, as long as my kids are happy these are minor things. Dp was very annoyed basically telling me it is stupid to do it this early and to take them down. It’s not the point he was making that’s the issue, it was the fact at how annoyed it made him. is it really worth getting that worked up over? The home is spotless clean and tidy what are some decs harming anyone?
next I have put 3 items of my clothing in the washing machine that I wanted to wear tomorrow, just on a quick wash. I don’t usually do that but also don’t see the issue. He questioned what wash setting I put my clothes on, what items I am washing etc. he then began criticising and picking at that. Questioning why I did it etc etc.
it is SO frustrating. Everything I do is criticised. I’m sure a lot of men wouldn’t even notice their wives using the washing machine let alone to be so bothered about what setting it’s on?
that is just a quick example of 10 minutes of him being home from work. This is every day, even looking in the bin to see what has been thrown away and question on things. it’s irritating me and I feel like I can’t make any of my own decisions! Like I have to do things his way.