The most perfect revenge in the world when hell hath no fury like a womans scorn

[fairyfly]

Is what i am feeling now.

I have had a hellish day full of insults and texts off the father of my children and my x boyfriend and here is what i am going to do.

1.) Stop sulking

2.) Take pride in my appearance

3.) Make dam sure i can get the money to keep renting my property, nobody is making me move house again

4.)Do more excercise when i feel upset/depressed/ tearful/ either to relax or beat the shit out of a punch bag

5.)Start to focus on what i am good at and succeed at it

6.) Ignore anyone who fills me with negativity

7. Embrace therapy

8. Volunteer every monday to cook lunch for an elderly home bound person

9)Put myself above the needs and wants of men i know who quite obviously only use me to feed their egos

10. Put my vagina into retirement

11. Count my blessings

12. Be proud not ashamed

13. Stop letting the piss be taken out of me

14. Start a new list about what i shall do for my kids but leave that list for a while until i feel stronger

great list! i'd add one small extra:

smile.

Wow. What a great post. I think I'll pinch a few of those.
Good luck

Some really excellent things on that list fairyfly, well done to you for being pro-active!

sounds great. i wish you all the goodness in the world, and bravo for being so positive.

thats sounds like a really good list number 10 is fab lol

fairyfly you are on the same wavelength as me. had an epiphany a few days ago about my life. i'm so ready to be positive and hardworking, to move onwards and upwards. i'm with you a hundred percent. this should be a support thread

fantastic list.

at number 10.

Oh it hopefully will be a support thread. I am so tired of giving everything and not coming up to scratch. I am also tired of being a victim.

I worry so much about how these people are and now i am going to just put myself first. Sounds absurd writing that down, but i know what i mean! I deserve to be treated better.

I have had appalling texts today about how i don't deserve support and money etc....

IT"S JUST NOT TRUE!!!!! THEY SPEAK SHIT

Hurrah

lightbulb emotican

I'd include changing my SIM card or blocking your ex bf's number.

You go girl

Only electric shock treatment would do that expat.

Yes smile, not quite ready for that one, uncomfortable grimace is what i am aiming at.

I'd just take the high road.

For every single one of his texts I'd only reply: 'I know you are, but what am I?' or 'I'm rubber, you're glue. Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you.'

Block the buggers, ff. (Hope ex's dad is still being supportive though?)

See you tomorrow - if I don't get lost on the M60

Oh i couldn't send anything like that, i would get poems back off one and so what off the other

Looking forward to it ww x

well done, fairyfly. a very good example to us all.

[clap] welll done you,

reply 'message redirected to someone who gives a flying feck'

list looks good! keep up the good work!

yay for you!!

I love that saying "the best revenge is a good life"

Said it to myself many many times when breaking up with ex.

Also one that said something along the lines of
" I shall allow no man to denigrate my soul by making me hate him"

Love it!

Good luck

fairfly - most men think they are the centre of the world so hit him where it hurts - his vanity. Just show total indifference to him and what he's doing and it will drive him nuts.

Keep conversations to the bare minimum and don't ever ask him how he is. If he asks how you are just say "great" or "very busy". I think it just feeds their egos if they think you miss them or can't cope without them. And it absolutely destroys them if they think you are having a better time without them.

Number 8 is lovely - and puts an ex's smal-minded nastiness into perspective.

hey ff rememerb when you foudn ex h workgin in that bar on the website
did anythig happene because of that?