The most perfect revenge in the world when hell hath no fury like a womans scorn

[fairyfly]

Is what i am feeling now.

I have had a hellish day full of insults and texts off the father of my children and my x boyfriend and here is what i am going to do.

1.) Stop sulking

2.) Take pride in my appearance

3.) Make dam sure i can get the money to keep renting my property, nobody is making me move house again

4.)Do more excercise when i feel upset/depressed/ tearful/ either to relax or beat the shit out of a punch bag

5.)Start to focus on what i am good at and succeed at it

6.) Ignore anyone who fills me with negativity

7. Embrace therapy

8. Volunteer every monday to cook lunch for an elderly home bound person

9)Put myself above the needs and wants of men i know who quite obviously only use me to feed their egos

10. Put my vagina into retirement

11. Count my blessings

12. Be proud not ashamed

13. Stop letting the piss be taken out of me

14. Start a new list about what i shall do for my kids but leave that list for a while until i feel stronger

go for it FF - agree with musicgirl that indifference will drive him nuts . Just don't rise to his pathetic bait.

But don't retire your vag permanently - you just never know!

Thanks all, i'm not that interested in driving him nuts, just not being consumed by him anymore.

Cod, yes i informed the csa, who then rang him. He told them that he wasn't actually working, he was doing a masters and all work he did was voluntary ( he gets paid cash in hand).

So the csa rang me and said we have to give him the benefit of the doubt.

tossers

I just had to ring him, to sort out money. My x boyf, girls were laughing in the background and he was pissed out of his face. I asked him who he was with and he shouted "FUCK OFF YOU PARANOID BITCH JUST FUCK OFF" and hung up.

My heart is going and i am shaking. Hard to stay strong with that.

I'll get there though.

i feel sick at the thought, need pma now

god fairyfly, he sounds charming. dont worry bout yourself, you're gonna be fine. he's the one who clearly has issues. christ. does he have a drinking problem. whats pma??? (newbie!)

god fairyfly, he sounds charming. dont worry bout yourself, you're gonna be fine. he's the one who clearly has issues. christ. does he have a drinking problem. whats pma??? (newbie!)

Positive mental attitude, thanks mummy who love s those, i do too! Hope you enjoy being a newbie and get lots of mates.

I reckon he probably does have a drinking problem, for all my faults, even if he doesn't love me, i really don't need a respnse like that. I still feel sick because of it.

Go you!!!
It really is the best revenge - to rise above it all, and show that, actually,
you
are
ok!

I think the best revenge is to be happy.

go you. you're stronger than him remember.

also love no 10.

agree you don't need a fuckwit like that in your life, and if you have no real link to him as it were any more (ie house or children) then ignore ignore ignore. he is the fuckwit for letting a lovely lady like you go. ooh and any clothes you may have of his - 3 words, binliner and front door.

fairyfly - I think you just going to have to accept that, what ever your feelings for him, he doesn't love you or want to be with you. Time to move on.

How do you know that he doesn't love me musicgirl? You know him?

I shall be happy, my son is off school and has just put a dead spider in my hair. See, it starts when they are seven. I have told him he is never ever getting married

I would like to add something to your list.

Give yourself a gift every day,just something that makes you feel good.

Have a dance to your favourite song or a long relaxing soak before jumping into a fresh bed.

Take care of yourself,you will be fine

Oh thats lovely lillypie

Flowers and clean sheets and baths are wonderful.

I won't list anymore as i was starting to sound like a certain song off the sound of music

As an lifetime specialist in brooding hatred, I totally agree about the happy life. The I do not give a flying fandango about you, you @rsehole approach really offends the self-centred sort of a chap, I find.

You don't have to write it down,just remember to do it

fairyfly - why would someone who loves you treat you like this? You sound like a nice person, you deserve someone who treats you well. So why waste time and energy on this man?