Do you think anyone has a crush on you?

[Beanscene]

If so how do you know?
Genuinely curious, I've never experienced any interest from others but wondering if am crap at reading signals. Am in a relationship so not looking but If you've asked me if anyone had ever found me attractive id say no... but I genuinely don't know.

No, you're not alone. Unless it's blatant I am totally clueless as to whether a woman finds me attractive or not. If someone is looking at me, I generally feel like I have something on my face and that's why.

Not sure. There's a guy at the gym that I think likes me, he's always looking at me but I'm always looking at him, we seem to do it at the same time. He also has a habit of walking up and down behind me when I'm on certain machines (he doesn't do it if I'm not on them). Other things have happened which make me think he possibly does. This has been going on for a couple of months now.

But it could all just be a massive coincidence, although as I fancy him I'm hoping it's not. Just have to work out how to approach him without looking like a weirdo.

A million years ago I went to a night club with now DH. A girl was chatting to him and touching his chest whilst "reading" the slogan on his t-shirt. He was genuinely oblivious to the fact she was flirting. I was like I'm pretty sure she could read without sounding out and tracing the letters!
I think we're all a bit like that and don't see things.
I was telling my sister last week about a dad who blanks me on the school run when I'm alone, but will be friendly and familiar in front of other people. She was saying it's blatant he likes me. Really? He just seems rude!

@Yettisrus29 ooohhhhh...you should make small talk and see what happens.

@Yettisrus29 offer to spot him whilst he lifts weights?!
I'm super unfit and not a gym-goer so ignore me if this isn't a thing! But, I think he likes you!

Does anyone not think British men in general are just crap at showing any interest/flirting.... I remember my friend who visited from abroad said that she felt so unattractive whenever she visited the UK as she got absolutely 0 interest.... And she was attractive 🤣

Normal signals:
-Lingering eye contact
-Catching them looking at you when you're not looking at them
-Smiling while talking to you
-Giving you more attention than other people, asking you questions etc
-Going seemingly out of their way to be the same place as you
Etc etc

@Beanscene @LadyGeorginaSmythe I would but I lose the power to speak when I see him, I think I did a very goldfish impression last time! 🤦‍♀️ But when I've learnt how to speak I will attempt small talk!

@Yettisrus29 maybe drop a barbell in front of him that will be a convo starter

@66rabbits thanks for reply, but a lot of these things could just be part of a normal conversation couldn't it.

There is definitely a lot of truth in this if you come from a different country where people are more direct. It can also be a sign that some single people aren’t great at flirting etc in general. I have had a fair few married men flirt with me and/or my friends despite them obviously not being single.

No. I doubt anyone ever has. Especially not since I've been married. Why would anyone!

But I did have 2 great things happen to me. 1) at my slimmest went to meet Dh's colleagues, having met his boss a few times. Boss said to them have not met Dh's wife before? Oh she's lovely. I turned up in my muted green / teal dress, and my best boots. Apparently they all said he was batting above his station. It is not the truth at all, because he's a much lovelier person than I am!

@occhiazzurri my friend swears that when she is in her home country that she is never short of offers. She was really surprised at how shy/unconfident/unapproachable men in Britain are. Says that she always feels really ugly whenever she is here🤣
And nope never had my fair share of men married or not flirting with me🤣

@Yettisrus29 he fancies you. Strike up some small talk to get it going, don't miss the opportunity!

@66rabbits @Beanscene I dunno I think that's along the right lines. I'm bit reserved but even others I know show interest that way as well and don't go further than that...like I think I'm showing clear signs of being interested but I also don't know if it's being received or reciprocated. Seems obvious but may also be very vague.

I don't even know what flirting would be like to be honest. What would you expect from a guy who's interested, like more forward or?

@Yettisrus29 Only going off myself, looking in your direction more than once and also eye contact, it's interest. I wouldn't keep looking if I wasn't.

I think British people are uptight and keep feelings to themselves, male and female..

I'm a bloke and i was in the US a few months ago, Los Angeles walking along a street and out of the blue i got flirted with .

I think her exact words were.. "Damn you cute! You have got no hair but you're fine!" I said oh cheers, thanks and went on my merry way 😂

I do have some hair but i have a shaved head.

I'm 35 and in the UK i've NEVER had a woman show me that kind of interest but ive been told numerous times by ex's that im good looking, handsome etc etc..

I always think if it was somewhere other than the gym I would have by now. But even a hi would be a start I suppose 😬🙈. As you say I don't want to miss the opportunity or give him the impression I'm not interested.

@Catsafterme that's a good point especially in the gym. And it's proper eye contact. Although I caught him looking at me in the reflection in the window the other week as he was walking up and down behind me, it really put me off I struggled to stay on the treadmill 😂. I'm so not used to this.

@Yettisrus29 Ha, I can imagine. I would just smile next time make eye contact and he may do it back. I would understand a smile and I'm useless, so.

Haha smile back in the reflection 😂

I can't tell without asking, period. I've only known on 3 occasions. Twice I had a woman talking to me at a bus stop, and ask me out. One time a woman made it really obvious she wanted to kiss, and it was even more obvious once we did.

One more time is a maybe. A woman kissed me on the lips, unexpectedly and deliberately for sure. I probably came over uninterested but my brain just froze and didn't know what to do, so I have no idea and didn't ask, that was about a year ago. There was no indication on subsequent times I've seen her

I can’t tell if it’s a friend or someone I know or speak to, unless they make it very obvious. Which has happened and I’ve had a light bulb moment where I’ve had to go over all the interactions to see how I could have been so dumb.

Casual acquaintances, the eye contact tells me.

Not really, no. If they were showing just one behaviour from that list then it's not really an indicator of anything, but in combination, they're a pretty sure sign that someone is attracted to you.

….and sometimes they’ll do the exact opposite of this list if they have a crush too, eg avoid eye contact, avoiding being alone with you etc, being unable to talk.

Someone admitted to having a crush on me. He avoided me like the plague and I honestly thought he hated me.

I agree, OP, it’s very difficult to tell unless completely obvious.

I'm 57 so really not expecting to but occasionally DH says people have been looking at me ( he doesn't say it in a weird controlling way) and I say 'what, get lost, it's in your imagination'. I think he just says it to be nice.

I suppose you wouldn't know if you can't tell!

I've sometimes known and sometimes it's been a complete shock when someone has said something. I don't really go looking for it and I don't really care whether someone does or not. I certainly wouldn't base my assessment of how attractive I am on whether random men hit on me though.

No at the minute but in the past (I'm pretty old) two different people got one on me. I noticed them and because I wasn't interested I cold the friendships down.

I also have a few crushes myself some really impossible or very difficult when single and cold them down as well.