Would you count this as cheating

[bonzaitree]

I found that my bf has been looking at an exes profile on social media. For context she is from years ago and lives abroad.

I was disgusted but then when I told my 2 best friends about it they said curiosity just got the better of him and it was normal to look up exes online. Are they just being kind to me?

What do you think? Please honest opinions.

What a bizarre warped perception

Good lord no, that is not cheating. Or if it is, I am a serial cheater, and for full transparency, I cheated on my other half earlier this evening by talking fondly about an ex to a friend (which my OH could hear) - I should probably go and wake him up so he can tell me he's leaving me in the morning

Out of curiosity how did you find this out? Sorry if I missed it!

I look at my exes profile the odd time, I have zero feelings other than mild disgust towards him but it's just a curiosity to see what he's doing now and if the woman he cheated on me with is still able to put up with him! It's like a morbid curiosity but it's not something I think about on the day to day. So I wouldn't do anything about this at all.

If you've been snooping on his phone to find this, then that's your issue - why don't you trust him? If he's given you reason in the past and has cheated before then fair enough but if he hasn't then that's on you.

As mentioned I've been cheated on before and I have never checked dh phone. I went for counselling and addressed my own issues to make sure I wasn't carrying them into our relationship and he's never given me cause to doubt him so there's no reason for me to invade his privacy. For me that's just healthy boundaries in a relationship.