How long should it take to get ready?

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Please help to settle an argument between me and my husband!

Morning routine when I've gone upstairs is:
Go to loo
Brush teeth
Wash and moisturise face
Put on foundation and blusher
Get dressed
Brush hair and do ponytail.

How much time in total would you say I'd need?

15 minutes

Why is the subject of an argument?

10 mins

About 15 minutes. What’s the argument?

No shower? Then ten minutes I guess. 20-30 if showering and doing hair.

For me, this might take ages. The time vacuums would be going to the loo (especially if I took my phone), and then getting dressed. If I was having a fat day of my wardrobe was chaotic, that could take hours.

So, on a thin, efficient morning: 7 minutes.

On a fat, messy, mildly constipated morning: the morning.

Half an hour.

10-12 minutes, takes me 8 but we are in a bungalow so no stairs

Twenty minutes.

Incidentally, why are you arguing about it. What's it to him how long you take?

Go to loo - 2 mins
Brush teeth - 3 mins
Wash and moisturise face - 3 mins
Put on foundation and blusher - 3 mins
Get dressed -3 mins
Brush hair and do ponytail - 1 min

So be about 15 mins but may be slightly longer if I needed to work out what to wear for tricky weather or my IBS like stomach was playing up!

10-15 minutes

As long as you have both agreed a time to leave and you both are ready to leave on time, what's the problem?

That would take me 20mins. Another 20 if I had a shower and needed to dry my hair.

Thanks so much for taking the time to respond.

So I normally take 30 mins to do everything on the list.

I thought I had it down to a fine art, so I am pretty surprised that the majority of people can do the same tasks in around half the time.

The reason it comes up is because my most annoying habit is taking a long time to do things or losing track of time (I'm a bit of a day dreamer). And my husband's most annoying habit is being grumpy and impatient! He is generally happy for me to take 39 mins while he watches the kids, but am example of when he grumbles might be when having breakfast at the weekend and we make a spontaneous plan to go somewhere for the morning. He'll say, "oh can't you just do 10 minutes like I do?". I get his point- if he also needed 30ish mins we'd be over an hour before we could get in the car. But then I feel men have it easy because I could prob manage 10 mins if I wasn't doing makeup etc.
Because I know I'm slow I already try to compensate, for instance having a shower the night before. But I now see that he is actually accommodating me a fair bit, so I will now make more of a conscious effort to be on the ball in the mornings.
Someone asked why am I not just ready at the agreed time. I really hate working days where I feel I'm racing against the clock. I'd much rather do things at a leisurely pace and not be clock watching. Obviously we still have to do that if we're meeting people at the weekend etc.

In the morning if I'm not showering, my get ready routine is:

-brush teeth, wash face
-head to the bedroom, get dressed
-full face of makeup
-unclip hair and brush
-bathroom to wash hands

It takes me 15-20 minutes. Slightly over 20 if I need to fix my hair with the straighteners.

That's about the same as my morning routine and I'm usually done in about 15 mins if my hair is cooperating, 20 if it needs a bit more violence.

Because I know I'm slow I already try to compensate, for instance having a shower the night before. But I now see that he is actually accommodating me a fair bit, so I will now make more of a conscious effort to be on the ball in the mornings.

You're already aware and trying to compensate for what is just a normal part of life. Women often take longer than men to get ready (hello - hair and make up?!) I take way longer than 15 minutes.

And maybe you're worth accommodating!

I really hope he's not terrorising you over taking 15 mins to get ready, what a pain in the bum.

15 mins. Takes me another 10 or so to do a full face of make up and straighten/curl hair.

It takes me 15 minutes to do loo, wash and moisturise, dress and do hair. I don't do make-up. It takes me 20 minutes if I include a shower (but I don't dry my hair, it's curly so I just scrunch and add product).

If asked to rush I can do the no-shower version in 5 minutes...

It takes you as long as it takes you, and if someone is making you feel like you're doing it wrong, they're not being respectful of you. This is like accommodating the wishes of a husband who thinks his wife eats too slowly or takes too long to shit. It's really none of his business to 'be accommodating' of your personal habits. You're not supposed to be 'on guard' in case he wants to do something spontaneous when you're still in your pjs at the weekend; he's supposed to respect the fact that you take a while to get ready and are on go slow, because it's Saturday.

I wonder what the rest of your relationship is like, and how else he might be 'accommodating' you, for being yourself. Why is it the case that he's right, because you're slow, and not the case that you're right, and he's pressuring you to do things on his clock?

I'd say 30 minutes too

I love this, thank you. Might print and put it up in the bathroom mirror so I can see it every morning while getting ready 😂🙌

Sorry, above message was meant to be a reply to mhmmm. Not sure how to tag people!

Thanks watchkeys.

I should point out that "accommodating" is my own term for the purpose of this thread. He's never said anything like that thankfully!

I really value your points, but tbf to hy husband, I think if I switched positions with him, I would probably find the timekeeping thing a bit irritating too if I'm being honest.

while half an hour is a reasonable time, you already know this is how long it takes so if you have an agreed time to do something - maybe just set off earlier?