So my partner of almost a year has a gambling addiction and he also struggles with his mental health. He refuses to seek help for any of these issues as he says it’s pointless but it’s getting to the point where it has destroyed our relationship and is destroying me as a person.
For context, I am neurodivergent (both autism and ADHD) so I often have a lot of trouble understanding peoples intentions and he really doesn’t understand the way my brain works. He lives with me but doesn’t pay for anything because he has nothing left after gambling. I pay for all the bills, all the food (he occasionally will do a £40 shop which I am grateful for, but it’s once in a blue moon), I take him to work and pick him up from work as well as well as working myself and taking my son (not his child) to nursery. He doesn’t give me money for petrol because he doesn’t have any due to gambling. I literally pay for absolutely everything.
On top of that he is CONSTANTLY asking to borrow from me. At the start I was really naive and believed the lies about what the money was for. I wont lend him money anymore, yet he relies on me financially for everything and im hugely struggling.
He on one occasion spent money out my bank account on gambling without asking me, and the final straw was last night.
Ive taken on another job specifically to have more money to survive. I get tips, which id been saving in a glass jar for my son. While i was at work yesterday he asked me if he could use the money to buy cans. I replied after a while and obviously said no, but he had already taken the money and bought them.
Im so angry, upset, frustrated and hurt. It was only £6 but it isnt the point. It has all built up to this point. He did apologise at first but i was so angry i didnt reply. Hes now trying to act like nothing is wrong and if i dare bring it up he will turn it around on to me like usual.
How do i end this? I feel trapped in my own home, he was never meant to live here he just stopped going home. Being autistic Im no good at confrontation and i dont know how to make him leave :( any advice please.