DH has always been someone who’s an idiot where drink is concerned. He can’t pace himself and will get stupidly drunk each time, rather than just have a few. He’s never given any cause for concern as such, more just an annoying teenager type drunk who goes on a bit daft.
More recently, he reacted angrily in the past when I asked him if he could stay at home to help me with our eldest as I was heavily pregnant with our second and struggling to walk, rather than go out. He caused that much of an angry scene (stomping about, bellowing) that he did indeed go out anyway, refusing to compromise and go but come home earlier. He was desperately sorry after that, so he said.
Tonight we’ve had a rare evening together and been to a concert and had a few drinks. He was absolutely fine one moment, the next out of nowhere, announces he’s leaving the concert for the train (we had an agreed way of getting home which wasn’t the train). He then ups for ages and just leaves me there, completely ruining the second half of the concert with me thinking he’d left.
He eventually returned but sat silently and sullenly (after dancing, singing and being tactile with me during the first part). On the way out, he insisted we needed to walk through an area I have no idea about (industrial type), slapped a car that beeped at him for being in the road and, because I told him he can’t do that in his job (PC), decided to then race off into the leaving crowd and leave me in the middle of nowhere, after a few drinks and low phone battery.
I stopped where I was as I could see a street sign for reference but he didn’t return, turn around or contact me. I ended up asking my DM to come and collect me as I had no idea where I was and worried about trying to navigate myself around an industrial area after a few drinks. We tried to ring DH a few times so he could get in too, despite me being quite angry at him by now, but he didn’t answer so we left the city as we had no idea where he’d gone.
DH’s dad (our childcare for the evening) was in touch with him and ended up paying for a taxi home for him which came to £80. When he got home, he completely ignored me but then eventually started telling me to F off, go f myself, pushed me in the chest and told me I’d stranded him and caused his dad a huge taxi bill. He then told me he wasn’t going out for a planned dinner with me and my ‘crank’ mother tomorrow or the rest of the ‘retards’ (some of my family).
I’ve sent him to sleep at his dad’s house as the other alternative I debated was calling his employer. I was genuinely really scared of him tonight, his eyes had just changed.
I haven’t been to sleep yet and just feel so sad and all over the place.