Hi there, I would really appreciate other’s perspective. I have little experience in these matters as I married young. I have been married for over 20 years. I have never had an orgasm, however sex was for most part mutually satisfying. Once I hit the menopause, I found myself dry down below and sex stopped being enjoyable. I was worried it might create problems in my marriage so I went to see a lady therapist. She suggested lubricant gel. My husband and I tried it once, it made a massive difference. Problem solved, or so I thought. It has been 7.5 years now and my husband still doesn’t get the gel out in a timely fashion despite lots and lots of conversations on this topic. By the time I remind him, what’s left of my desire is gone. I tried saying nothing at all. Then the gel simply doesn’t appear. About 6 weeks ago I told him I am not prepared to have sex with him anymore, ever. The children still have a few years of schooling left so I can’t leave right now. My morals don’t allow me see satisfaction on the side whilst married. I miss the cuddles. So I am in a bit of a pickle. A close friend mentioned that my husband could be behaving like this because he forgets in his excitement. Well, the last time (we had a brief conversation) he said he didn’t fancy sex, he thought I fancied it (I didn’t, I stopped enjoying sex many years ago for the reasons described above). I think I could find a way to move forward it I thought there was a valid reason for my husband’s behaviour. At the moment, I think he is either 1. Lazy 2. Selfish 3. Thick 4. Any combination of the above. Apart from this matter, he is a good dad and a decent husband. As I have mentioned, I don’t have much experience in these matters, other’s opinion would be much appreciated.
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