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Would you be mad at him or jealous?

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 09:29

The company where my partner works organized a summer party. They also allowed external guests to get tickets. Before the event, he mentioned that he didn't really want to take me along because there would only be people from work there. However, he also told me that his former intern would be attending (with him) because he had put her on the guest list. She is starting to work full-time at the company again in a few weeks.

They took a photo together at the event.

Afterwards, my boyfriend told me that there were hardly any colleagues from work there, but also many external guests and curious onlookers. Would you be upset and jealous? Somehow, I feel like he wanted to go there alone with the intern.

Or do you think I'm overreacting? My boyfriend is in his early 30s, and she is in her mid-20s.

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swimsong · 12/09/2023 09:39

Say you'd like to meet her? Maybe a drink sometime after work.

Malificent1 · 12/09/2023 09:42

Depends. Were they there as part of a larger group of colleagues, or was it just the two of them like a date?

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 09:54

So he put her on the list and they went upstairs together and there they met other colleagues

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Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 12/09/2023 09:56

I would be upset. How long have you been together?

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 09:56

She said she wants to meet me many times. But he said it would be weird for the three of us to hang out, maybe one day if other colleagues are around

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 09:56

We've been together for 1.5 years now

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Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 12/09/2023 09:58

How is your relationship appointment from this incident?

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 09:59

Things are as usual

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MarjorieStuartBaxter · 12/09/2023 10:01

This is bullshit he didn't want you there for a reason I'd be pissed off sureky if that woman is going bk to work there she'd have her own invite all a bit strange.

AliceOlive · 12/09/2023 10:01

It would bother me.

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 10:03

Yeah he invited her, becuase she was his intern and she knows all the people at the company

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Divebar2021 · 12/09/2023 10:05

I don’t work anywhere that has interns but I wouldn’t have thought that it was common for more senior employees to hang out with them much. Has he ever socialised with very junior staff before?

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 10:05

Yeah, he has hung out with a junior a lot before. That is not the surprising part

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threecupsofteaminimum · 12/09/2023 10:07

Sounds dodgy to me. He didn't want you there, he wanted to be there with her is the bottom line. I hope you're ok, but I sense this isn't going to end well.

Blinkinbloodyhayfever · 12/09/2023 10:08

You know him better than anyone else, bit I would say I've been in her shoes, although a long time ago, and would split (straight, married) male coworkers into 3 categories. You work just as hard as everyone else, but there is always an assumption, from both colleagues and bosses wives, that you are chosen on looks or who you sleep with. Some men will consider that they are doing the right thing by not inviting you to networking events. The men that invite you on merit will have had a long discussion with their wife about their loyalty to her first, almost getting her permission to take you. Then the other third will spend their nights trying to get into your pants.

MissHarrietBede · 12/09/2023 10:10

Yeah he wants her.

Zenana · 12/09/2023 10:16

When I was an intern in a bank I finished in the summer after doing a year but I took a job elsewhere. I was invited to the Christmas party but the invite came from HR not an individual man who wanted to cop off.

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 10:20

Yeah it was not an official company party, they hosted smth like a fashion show not organised by HR

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Rosiem2808 · 12/09/2023 10:22

Dodgy as fxxxk. He's a sleaze and you know it OP

72EasyLessons · 12/09/2023 10:23

The weirdest part of this is that your boyfriend’s company held a summer party but allowed non-employees to buy tickets, and, according to your boyfriend, hardly any of the attendees worked for the company but were external ticket-buyers or ‘curious onlookers’? (At a work party? What was there to be curious about? Does he work at a zoo or something?)

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 10:25

it was a queer fashion show

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glassorangerie · 12/09/2023 10:29

I would not like this at all.

AliceOlive · 12/09/2023 10:30

So he was not required to attend and it was more of a social event? Very dodgy.

A woman repeatedly telling a man she wants to meet his partner can often be intended to convey “I am not interested in you.”

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karlaka · 12/09/2023 10:32

No he was not required, but pretty most people from his company attended at some point

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WandaWonder · 12/09/2023 10:32

With your little drip feeds you are jealous, I can't say how I would feel as it depends on how he was acting at the time and no matter what toy drip feed that won't come across on here no matter what you say

Again you wantcto be jealous so you can't change that

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