Making the biggest decision - kids vs husband

[WeighingUpMyOptions]

I do not love my DH. He is difficult and mean. And its getting worse. I am happier when he is not at home.

There is no addiction or abuse or lies. He is a loving dad who takes zero responsibility for the boring and difficult stuff.

I am presuming he will want 5050. He may not but I must prepare for the worst.

I am quite a pragmatic person and I'm weighing up my options this way: the pain of not seeing my kids 50% vs the pain of biting my tongue around my DH for the next decade.

For people who chose to leave and now see their kids less - was it worth it? It seems awful to think it might be. I'm finding it so so hard to live with this man.

What an impossible decision. Both things feels unthinkable

My Dad was horrible to my mum. She stayed and it didn’t get any better. I remember even as a young teenager thinking she should leave him but she never did. It affected my relationship with her to be honest, which isn’t really fair I suppose but I feel a bit like she let us down by not doing anything about the situation and leaving us to grow up in a house in which the two adults had a horrible relationship.