Silent treatment

[silenttimes]

I'm on the 5th day of silent treatment from DH.
Whenever I am looking forward to something he ruins it or does this. It was one of my daughters 18th birthday last weekend. I had a night out planned with her and her friends which he was aware of and coming too. In the morning he just woke up and stopped speaking to me. I asked him what the matter was and he said nothing he just didn't have anything to say. Something was clearly the matter and he made me feel uncomfortable all night.
Im sick of him ruining things. I checked plans and he agrees, then when it comes to it, he goes quiet and has a face on him. When I am what's wrong, he says nothing.
I just feel like he's so selfish and if it's something he doesn't really want to be doing (even if it's for the kids) he ruins it. If I just stop involving him I have to take the kids (younger than the 18 year old) to things on my own and it's hard work. Why should he get to opt out? It feels like he's won.
I hate getting the silent treatment, I can't sleep, eat or concentrate. Just posting to rant as I feel so sad.

Also do nothing for him . Cook for yourself and the kids. Same with his clothes. You will start to feel so free . Good luck OP you're making the right decision . Come on here for support. A lot of us have left these kind of abusive partners as it is abuse.

Absolutely this! Take care of yourself OP. 🌹

Today I found a pub receipt that showed he had been in the pub on the last day of the school holidays between 1-2. He knew I was at breaking point trying to look after the kids and work from home. He had also been to the gym 3 times that week during the day. He has no care for me at all. I've told him I'm done. I can't even pretend while I wait to see a solicitor.

It's easier to somehow do it all on your own because at least then you're not mired in resentment and frustration, and there is no 'hope' that you'll be helped in the next 24 hours. All hope that you'll be helped is gone so it actually frees up your head. I felt far less angry and frustrated and miserable after I left my awful x.

If I were you, I would put that receipt somewhere safe and take it out every time you feel yourself wavering about your decision to end this shitshow of a marriage. You sound like you've finally made the decision. It's the right decision. Follow it all the way through to the end now.

Being unavailable both mentally and physically will go against him in the divorce.. Stay strong and file when he isn't in so you can concentrate..

Feel for you op. This behaviour is apalling. My mother used to do it if she didnt get her way. Its not nice at all. Drags whole mood down too.