we have a gorgeous six month old dd
my dh loves her to bits
he has just suggested we start trying for another, to which I suggested that if he could get a bit more involved that would be fine, but until then it doesnt really appeal
and he has promptly gone off on one moaning what he ALWAYS moans on whenever I dare to criticise
"I am a pretty good husband to you you know, its so unfair, you are making me feel really bad" huph humph humph tennagery strop off all passive aggressive as usual, which makes me feel bad
BUT
since she has been born he has done/ not done the following
has changed only 6 nappies and has always required help - the last one of which was in October, which he only managed because he made me shout out detailed instructions even though I was simultaneously barfing down the toilet with food poisoning
actually thinking about that episode, the moment I was dressed and hobbling round the house feeling god awful the baby was handed back to me as he had a "hangover" and he had changed her nappy that morning so he was entitled to a "little" lie down (all afternoon)
has not given her a bottle for the last 3 months
has only ONCE fed her her lunch and only because he had no choice - this is now used as evidence that he is an exemplary father
has never given her a bath
has never dressed her
has never once got up in the night with her, yet still moans that he is SOOO tired and when I have snapped back that I am also tired has done the above "I am a good husband and you don't appreaciate me yah da yah da yah da...its not fair that you are trying to make me feel bad"
when asked to do anything more than hold her does the teenagery humphing "right fine whatever!" like I have just asked him to repaint the farking sistine chapel!
incidentally he will happily hold her, when she is in a good mood and all smiley and HE has decided he wants a cuddle, but of course when I ask him to do it (ie: if she is moaning and needs a bottle making up) it is a massive chore.
this a is a bit long and ranty and probably does not make a lot of sense but I am just so !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!