No idea what to do. I am going on gut feelings. Several signs over several months and I'm being greeted with 100% denial. Do people deny using drugs even when they have been busted? I am well aware the list below is screamingly obvious but he is insisting I've got it all wrong. He's turning it around and saying I'm going on at him and starting. To the point he's saying he's done with me. Which is fine..because I don't want this pain.
Just to make you aware i know he does weed.
So signs.
Pipe in bag
Foil always in bag.
Badge in bag.
His bracelet disappeared around 3 months ago.
Our fire stick disappeared aswel, he said he left this in the hotel we was at. Clearly hadn't.
He earns good money. He earns £3500 a month. His rent and bills come to around £460 a month. Yet he's always skint. Often he owes me money.. but he owes others money too. He gets around it by saying he spends loads working on the road on food. Weed he admits too etc.
He goes through weeks when he's moody and weeks when he's more focused on us. In the better Weeks he tends to be on repeat making promises of what we are working towards and insisting we will get there. But it's always one day! Never now!
Money has been stolen from me in recent months. He does return it. But its happened 2 times now and I'm disgusted.
This last week he's borrowed money for certain items around the home that he clearly didn't buy. He has paid me back.
Today he was meant to be getting his passport copied for his new landlord. I slept at my own house last night because he's got problems with his phone and was stressy I really didn't want to be around him. He's been awake all night. The plan was very early today we were going to sort out him coming up or us meeting or me going down with his passport. It was looking likely I'd go down with it and meet him.
I phoned him at 6.30 this morning when he text to say he was up. He said he was gunna try sleep for another hour because he's knackered. I said well can you tell me a plan then as if I'm meant to be meeting you etc I need times etc.
He started getting irritable and said oh are you wanting to come down first thing then. He also said he hadn't thought about anything other than going to the bank.
I get the impression he thought I'd walk half way then he'd go off and I'd come back home. I tried to explain I've gotten up early thinking I was helping him out and now he's being difficult.
The long story short he said he's done with me because he's sick of me kicking off.
I really wasn't kicking off. I expected a coffee at his flat for walking half an hour with his passport!
I'm so confused by him. The last few months I've found him going from one extreme to the other. He's not the person he was. I found two drug bags in his drawer recently and he denied they were his.
This morning I said to him that the shopping he had been to get wasn't even in the flat so shat had he spent the money on. He said whatever and hung up.
This is going to read very childish. But this has been my life now for a few months and its completely thrown me.
I need the obvious stating. What do people think? Why is he still denying it when I've seen enough?