he has gone

[jenk1]

dh has left home.

he moved back during the middle of january with promises of how he would change but he hasnt.

ive got a big pile of debts that he promised he would sort out and he didnt.

he was still being aggresive to ds and me and so i asked him to leave 3/4 weeks ago and he begged me for yet ANOTHER chance and like a fool i said yes cos i still care for him and thought maybe just maybe being around people who love and care for him would help him see his behaviour was not on.

but no, im flogging a dead horse, i cant give anymore emotional strength to him, he,s got problems and he needs professional help.

i feel gutted, so sad and angry at him.

but i know ive done the right thing and this time its for good.

he is staying with his dad who no doubt is telling him not to listen to me or take any notice.

Well, I'd like to see him not take any notice of Motability!!

It's just so shitty of him - the way he's treated your son and then he has the nerve to keep hold of your son's car.

its dd,s car which is probably why he thinks he has a right to it as shes biologically his.

but ds qualifies for mobility as well as its unsafe to take him anywhere on foot as he doesnt have much road safety and is Autistic.

he acts like a spoilt brat and is extremely childish and i wish he,d grow up but i suspect he wont.

Oh is it? He's still wrong. If he won't hand it over, you will report him, won't you?

I am a bit to admit that I really want to slap this man. I don't know him, I only read your threads and your descriptions of him make me want to set fire to his todger and then dip it in chilli powder. So sorry.

hekate LOL at what you want to do.

he has for a long time took complete advantage of me being depressed over ds,s school situation, has been very sly and sneaky and i didnt see it as i was too busy fighting for ds to get to a good school and all of dd,s health problems.

now since everything has died down and i have more time (time which i thought and hoped would be for me and dh to spend time together) it is so apparant the way he behaves.

when ds first came out of school, (he was out for 2 years) xdh suddenly developed depression and spent probably about 18 months on and off out of work with depression, ds goes back to school last year and dh goes back to work and no more depression.

pathetic.

i phoned motability and advised them of the situation, they advised me to phone the insurance so i did.

they told me that dh can use the car to commute to and from work,that even though we are estranged they take the view that he has to support to provide for his daughter and as long as he doesnt use the car for business use and only to commute its fine.

i told them that the car wont be parked on my drive and it will be at FIL,s house and they said thats fine as xdh is a nominated driver.

i told xdh this and he was very pleased.
then i asked him for taxi money as dd wont go to nursery unless by transport and he has agreed to pay for her taxis.

i need to get my driving lessons underway asap now as i can have them through the family fund.

im glad i spoke to mobility/insurance at least to cover myself.

Good for you. Make sure you start your lessons soon, I didn't like driving lessons passed my test when I was 33 but I really love driving now, you have so much freedom and independence and you can get out with your dc's even when the weather is horrible. Go for it