I met a guy at work and am a bit confused by mixed messages. Can you tell me what you think?
We were friendly at first and I fancied the pants off him so started bringing him coffee and cakes I'd baked as a treat, and then we'd chat a lot at after work drinks.
I was hoping he'd ask me out, but he didn't. However after a eork party I invited him back to mine and we had sex. He left immediately afterwards, saying he had an early start, and I texted him very flirting and he responded quite coldly with an emoticon so I assumed that was that. The next day at work he said it was a mistake and couldn't happen again.
Two weeks later the same happened again and then again and after it happened a few more times I told him I had serious feelings for him and wanted to know if felt the same. He said his situation was complicated and he had feelings for someone else.
I stopped seeing him briefly and then it happened again until it was happening every week. He's seemed very reluctant all the way through but if I pull away he will message and ask what I'm doing and then it starts up again.
I have questioned him a lot and he says we're better as friends, and several times he has said we should stop seeing each other because he has feelings for someone else (apparently she lives overseas) but every week he wants to be with me so it feels like a very mixed message.
He cuddles up in bed and we often spend weekends together now, but I am frustrated. I keep feeling if he really loved this other woman why wouldn't he be with her?