Just wondering.
StBXH ended our 10 year marriage last year (DC were 1.5 and 4.5)
Found out a few months later that he'd been having an affair with one of his female friends and ex colleague
I've been reading a lot of threads about affairs and the mulitple "reasons" behind them
-Lust
-wanting cake and eating it
-boost of self esteem
And so forth
Then there is the "exit affair" where someone is in an unhappy relationship/marriage and meeting someone gives them the impetus to leave.
I sometimes get the feeling that exit affairs are deemed as "ok", as the person was unhappy.
My ex would claim that his affair was an exit affair to leave a marriage that he was no longer happy in (never sat me down to have that conversation with me, but anyway...)
So, my question is are exit affairs "ok"?
The affair has left me absolutely heartbroken, but I keep thinking, was it ok for him to do it because our marriage had become rocky with young children, bereavements, miscarriages and more?
Thanks for reading