Im 49, met DP, 55 about 8 months ago through friends.
Things have been going well and he has been very loving and attentive and let me know from the start that it was his plan to retire by the end of this year. He has now communicated this to his employer and will he retiring in 3 months.
Despite his age he does lots of ‘off the beaten track’ travel - Everest Base camp hiking, skiing in Argentina etc. He has planned this for years, has no kids and a retirement pot that I could only dream of!!
Things have been going really well, he has supported me through a family illness, and we have been talking about the future ie that we both see that there could be a future for us.
I know he wanted to travel on retiring but its now becoming clear that he is planning to be away for 2 weeks of every month for the forseeable future, he will both the finances, the time and friends scattered all over the world. This is in line with a 2 year ‘mid career’ Gap year he did with his now ex-wife.
He has had a couple of preplanned break’s recently and Ive missed him when he has been away and wondering how we can nurture a relatively new relationship in this way.
would this be a dealbreaker for you?