My friend has just split with her BF. They were planning to go on a European city break so she has asked me to go instead. They had bought flights but not hotels. It is turning into a bit of a nightmare and I don’t know what to do - am worried that our friendship won’t get through it. WWYD?
Flights- are from her home town (the other side of the country). Rail strikes would make it difficult for me to get to her (not impossible but expensive and likely requiring overnight hotel accommodation/ will be time consuming and mean I have to cancel a pre-existing commitment) so , if she agreed, i would prefer to travel from where I live. However she has bought flights that are early in the morning- to arrive at the same time I would need to travel across London at 3am (alone) which I am a bit reluctant to do. Should I just do it (to be a good friend) or would it be reasonable to suggest she be alone for a couple of hours in the city? (Her ex BF is going to drive her directly to the airport so she doesn’t have the same issues). I would , of course, pay for my own flight.
Hotels- I had hoped to have our own rooms but to keep the costs down she wants to share. Fine. We exchanged details of possible options. She wants to keep costs down but also wants a rooftop pool. She didn’t seem keen on any of my proposals. I am happy to go with hers - although they are far out and will require taxis etc to get to the attractions. She subsequently texted to say that money is tight and she doesn’t know if she can afford any of the hotels (he used to pay for holidays etc and is still going to help her pay for this one but I don’t know how much). I have offered to pay for the hotel but she hasn’t said much/doesn’t sound very enthusiastic . I could just get on and book one of her hotels but l am worried that rather than it being taken as a nice friendly gesture she might take offence. I queried whether she still wanted to go and she said she does:needs the break etc... But to be honest it is all starting to feel quite stressful and, with only a few days before we are meant to go, the prices are escalating and options reducing.
I know it must be hard for her. She doesn’t talk about anything other than the split/relationship issues and I think would welcome the distraction of a holiday but clearly £ is tight (for us all). She is emotional at the moment and in the past has been very sensitive /taken offence easily. I don’t want to let her down (as she may see it) but the whole thing has red flags flashing. WWYD? I want to maintain the friendship and am worried that not going or even going might cause difficulties. Help - I want to do the right thing but am worried/unsure about what that is..