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Its over.....

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Lizzer · 22/11/2002 09:20

Please help...Couldn't face posting on the dating game thread cos it has such wonderful things about the start of the relationship. But basically he called it off last night saying that he didn't want a girlfriend right now loads of crap about work is his priority at the moment. There were lots of tears from us both and he told me he loved me but felt he couldn't give me what I needed, so had finished it because if it went on then he would only treat me worse andworse...
Ifeel so awful. I knew we had problems and I wanted to talk them through, was also thinking that he might not be right for me but its only been 7 months surely that 1st year is full of differences cos you are getting to know someone. I thought it would be ok if we worked out where we were going, maybe took a little break for a while but not THIS!!!!
It feels like my heart is ripped into shreds, can't eat, sleep. My eyes hurt so much from crying and dd keeps saying 'are your eyes sore mummy?' Its bad enough having split up with people in the past, esp. dd's dad but this is different. Ever since I moved back to this hideous little town 3 yrs ago I fancied him, he kept me going, through everything there was always him... I can't believe its gone, I can't believe anything anymore. It feels like its not happening to me, that its just a dream. Why????
What am suppose to say to dd when she asks why we can't stay at A's anymore???????? /what am I supposed to do now, please someone tell me????

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Marina · 26/11/2002 20:39

Really pleased for you Bobbins, that is great news. But so sorry to hear about Mopsy - you sound very strong, but it can't have been easy. Let's hope 2003 brings good news for lots more Mumsnetters and a hold-back on the crying. We're worth it.

Rhubarb · 26/11/2002 22:02

Ooh Marina - just had to flick my hair back at that!

bossykate · 26/11/2002 22:29

hey bobbins, excellent news! have a ball,you deserve it!

Lizzer · 27/11/2002 11:53

Hello everyone - wow I feel sooooo much better when I see all these messages, thankyou all for your input...

Firstly I just want to say hello Mopsy, it must be much harder for you after 18 months, I hope you are beginning to feel like there is life after it all. I'm getting there slowly.

Actually been getting out as much as possible and my friends have been brilliant. Just beginning to come to terms with where things went wrong and they really did. IT was more than a case of him losing his way in the relationship. I must learn not to let my relationships rule my life so I begin just living for them. I never thought I'd do it again after dd's father ruined my life for a while but I did, and its rubbish. I went from being an independant woman to a hanger-on and it must stop. Another reason I see for it happening was that he was miserable when i met him and I MADE him happy. This is no way to start a relationship, as when I started having needs of my own he couldn't get his head round it as I was the one who was supposed to be HAPPY. I'm sure that the best way is if both people are fairly happy with themselves and don't DEPEND on their partner for happiness. Therefore I think we both made that fatal mistake in our own different ways...
So all in all I'm feeling positive about it all. I'm seeing him tomorrow night and picking up all dd's toys etc from his house. This is going to KILL me, but I need to get it done and out of the way. I do still hope we can be friends - he's so very dear to me but I know that friends as ex's can't always work. Thnaks for your input on that all of you. I guess sleeping with him is wrong for the reason that he will be getting what he wants then and I'll always want more. But if, like Tigermoth, I can remain close it would be brill.

My heart is lifted by your message Bobbins, congratulations and though I can't imagine feeling anything for anyone else right now- I can't wait til I can. good luck for the future

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Lizzer · 27/11/2002 11:57

Marina - you're so right if we collected our collective tears from this year we'd have enough for a swimming pool. Onwards and upwards in 2003

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